Hi I’m sure my partners acts are abusive , I need some outside look into this tho as over time I think I’ve made excuses for his behaviour and im almost so used to it it’s hard to see it until now . Basically he always had an issue with drinking ( becoming aggressive but not physically so didn’t think it was abusive ) but he gave up drinking months ago and everything has been good . Tonight he was angry about bad news he’s had about his father’s health . I’ve tried to comfort him (he’s been angry and upset over it which is understandable) but things escalated and he turned things into arguments about something not relevant basically just to direct his anger at me and smashed the TV up and took my phone off me not allowing me to leave the house . I’m so upset as he started bringing up old arguments about how I’m not supportive and always having a go at him ( even tho I feel the reasons were justified in my case ) and the reason he smashed the TV was because “I shouldn’t have made him angry so it’s my fault “ It’s always the same argument about how I’m not supportive or I haven’t been . But last year he barely helped around the house , my father had just died , he was lying about addiction and finances while I worked 3 months after our baby was born to let him take time off work to try get better ( he has mental health issues ) I just feel like he’s never going to get better and will always justify his behaviour with mental health or something I’ve said or done .We don’t live together . I really don’t know how to leave him as I can’t see him not harassing me 😭 plus the guilt he will put on me over his fathers health is going to be awful . I’m sorry I know this is all over the place I just don’t know who to talk to . I feel trapped