Hey ladies I’m going through the thick of it, I’m in a long term relationship and hubby to be recently started drinking every night (he has never been a drinker) I’ve addressed this he said it was due to a few family and friends deaths this year. Cut a long story short he admitted he had also occasionally started to use cocaine, I told him I absolutely cannot tolerate this and he said he wouldn’t do it again although still stays up late drinking whilst I sleep. We were having a few drinks in the garden as I don’t drink through the week and usually fancy a bottle of wine to wind down on the weekend, he was telling me about a friend getting back with an ex after a long separation, I said I’ve never done that and mentioned that I would find it hard to reconcile with an ex, I also mentioned my two exes (from nearly 20 years ago that I never really talk about or think of,and had no contact with or seen or heard from since we broke up) make me feel sick and I’d find it difficult to go back personally, later on that evening we had a disagreement whilst under the influence and he began getting angry saying that I’m a liar and there’s an old photo of my ex in the attic I explained calmly my dad dropped an old box of photos off when he sold his house and just not had time to go through it but he got very loud in my face then started saying I’m sleeping with someone from work and cheating etc he poked me in the head and pushed his head on mine, he was invading my personal space shouting and quite scary. There is no legitimate reason for him thinking I’m having an affair I’m very loyal, don’t even have male friends, I don’t even know where it has come from, he apologised but I really can’t move past it, I asked him could we talk today out of the house so we can address the issues, but he got angry and said he has nothing to talk about and basically I’m the one with the problem. I just feel he’s acting so out of character by being paranoid, aggressive and not wanting to work through our problems that maybe he’s on something, as it’s really not in his nature to be so paranoid and insecure. I asked him if he had taken any drugs after his outburst the next day and he said no just drank too much said sorry but didn’t seem very remorseful, I want to try save the relationship but he refuses to talk about anything and I’m so depressed at the thought of having to walk away, but don’t know if I can support him if he has an addiction which he won’t admit to. Sorry for the long post I have no one to talk to.