Do I leave my child with him?

[Lazycatx]

Married 3 years with a 2 year old. Living in his house that he inherited when his parents passed away. I work full time and pay for childminder and food shop, petrol, days out etc. He does not work but has inherited businesses. For the past few months, he has emotionally abused me to an extent where I would think I am the problem and change myself and how I act/ respond. I am slowly dying inside, he belittles me infront of my child, swears at my mother on the phone for no reason and tells me to get out every other day. I have no savings and I am not paid particularly well. I need to leave. I have no where else to go. I am looking at rooms rentals which are £800-£1000 on spare room. If I move to a house share I will not be able to pay my childminder. Do I leave my child with him and leave? I don't think I would be able to live with myself...

Have you looked at what you could receive in universal credit if you’re the sole earner? I wouldn’t leave my DC personally

You know the answer to this. No.

Are you on UC?

Any family around?

No you don’t leave your child with him.

speak to shelter or the local council and look into getting your own property. It may be a wait until you get somewhere you can call ‘home’; but it will be better than this.

Please call Women’s Aid and get some advice/support.

Go on a benefit calculator - you’ll probably get help with rent if you rent a small place for you both. You’ll be ok financially. Do not leave your child.

No, don't leave your child. Find out what you would be entitled to, and leave with your child

I would call Shelter and ask about housing. Try Turn2us for benefit help and any other funds. Contact you local domestic abuse organisation and see if they can help. I would even contact social services before leaving my child with an abuser.

Why would you consider leaving your precious dc with a cunt?

Call your local woman's aid. There are options and there is support. Call them when you are away from him and get a UC claim in soon they take a while to go through

What he’s inherited is a marital asset. You’re entitled to his property and anything else in his name that he acquired while you were married. How easy and how complex that all becomes is another thing, but seek advise from Women’s Aid in the first instance. Please don’t leave your child. Go on the Turn2us calculator and see what you’d be entitled to. I’d walk out of a job and go on bare minimum benefits before leaving a child with an abuser. It’s not ideal, and maybe will be unnecessary universal credit can be a lifeline and usually pays towards housing and childcare. You need to get out with your child, but you need help and guidance and an understanding of what you’re entitled to. Keep posting here, you’re not alone.