Think we are going to break up

[Siyasiyasiya]

Please can someone talk me through the logistics of this. I have would like to break up with my boyfriend.

i feel really sick and guilty about it - we have been living at his and I want to be fair. We have a financial arrangement where I pay for some expenses and not others. Should I offer to pay him for what I have used to make it fair?!

I know that he won’t want to break up and I don’t want to hurt him but I’m not happy. How do I go about moving out as we live together? Please help!

We have been together two years and live together in his place.

I think I'm missing something here. What sort of thing are you thinking you should offer to pay for?
Do you think if there were changes, you could/would try again with him? If not, just be honest taht you're not happy and want to split up. Stand firm and don't let him try to change your mind.
From an outsiders point of view, I'd say just find somewhere else to live, pack your things and move out.

For rent basically!

In not sure re the changes - I have been playing it over in my mind for months and go from I want to be with him forever vs I want to break up.

we have been together for a couple of years and I think we are too different. I don’t think communication is our strong point and I think we want different things.

We broached the wanting different things point a while back and he cried and said he didn’t want to lose me, which made me feel really sad and even more attached to him. I know he wasn’t doing it as a manipulation technique and was hurting deeply but equally I’m just not that happy.

If there's no salvaging the relationship or if you're unwilling or he is to work at it.

I would suggest you get a place sorted for you to go to first. Pack as much and as discreetly as you can, move whatever out that you can without him noticing. Once you've done as much as you can tell him then that's it over.

That way the rest of your move should go quicker and be less awkward or open to arguing and there will be no getting talked around if that's what you're worrying about.

How do you know you want different things if you haven't communicated about them?

No, you don't have to pay back any rent

I don’t know what I want, I’m going back and forth tbh

If you aren’t happy and want to leave, not making the break now will only prolong the inevitable. Your unhappiness and dissatisfaction will fester and bring you both down. Best to end it on good terms.

If you aren’t sure, could you book a week away somewhere so you can work out how you feel.