Helpful or forceful ?

[newyearsresolurion]

I've been a yes person and a people's pleaser most of my life and recently I've been trying to put boundaries in place. So a friend has invited to go out tonight but I have said I can't as I can't afford it. They have offered to pay for me. Are they being helpful or forceful ? I haven't replied yet.

It would suit them because they want to go out, doesn’t mean it’s not a nice offer though. But that doesn’t matter - do you want to accept or refuse? Either is fine!

Thanks for the reply !!!!

Helpful I think. You didn't indicate you don't want to go so I would assume 1. They really want to go out 2. With you

I've done that before when I've thought a friend wanted to go but couldn't, it was happily accepted but I wouldn't have been offended by a no thanks. Equally I don't think I would accept it from anyone as I wouldn't feel comfortable!

So not forceful but no obligation to accept.