Overbearing pil, will things start up again

[bigboydiditandranaway]

I'm pregnant at the moment so feel more sensitive to pil's comments etc.

With our first child they were very pushy and overbearing over issues and generally they felt a bit pushed out i think because we didn't want to do the things they did when they were in our position etc.

I am a bit apprehensive that they are going to start again as i think they also feel jealous of my relationship with my parents who live closeby unlike them who live an hour away. We see my parents slightly more but when mil's mil was alive it was all that side of the family and it feels sometimes that they want the same thing.

am i just being oversensitive and looking back instead of to the future? They haven't had any major strops since xmas but that doesn't really mean anything, mil isn't very understanding and sees pregnanacy hormones as something to be taken advantage of it seems.

Thing is, you can't possibly predict these things. You also can't control how other people behave, you can only control how you behave. So the only thing to do is to plan in advance how you will handle such things, if they happen. Try not to be 'off' with them in anticipation iyswim, or you might start problems yourself!! You are also not responsible for what other people may or may not feel, so try to not go down that route!

And yes. You are probably being a bit hormonal too!

ta, we've recently changed what time we see them due to dc new sleep routine and i don't think it bonds too well although we're still seeing them the same ammount of time generally, they're, particularly mil is so stuck in her ways. Maybe aswell it is because there isn't mch scope to extend visiting times which we don't want to do as they're such a PITA.

Yes hormones are great aren't they!

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ta paros, i'm trying not to be cold towards her and fil, we always have them over for lunch and when we go over to theres it's recipricoted and generally easy, it's just the rest of the visit.

I don't want to control them, they try to do that with us enough and i'm thankful dh & i aren't like them, it's just that really, we aren't like them and dh & i are sure they think that's strangeBut i do except the way they are and usually find being two steps ahead of them better than sticking my head in the sand , hoping it will all go away.