Age gap - is it weird?

[Dressingownvibes]

I started speaking to a man on Facebook dating a couple of weeks ago, seemed to get on really well and both have similar interests. We finally met last night for a drink, went well, lots to talk about. Had a quick kiss before we left and we've been texting today. I do actually really like him but he's 25 and I'm 29.

We both work full time but I have my own house (bought a couple of years ago) and he still lives at home with family. It's not really an issue as I understand it's hard to get on the ladder these days. Neither of us have kids.

The age gap is niggling at me but I'm not sure why. If roles were reversed I wouldn't think anything of it so I'm not sure why it's bothering me. I've always dated older men (30-40) so maybe that's why. He seems lovely so far. Am I just being wierd and overthinking things?

I'm worried what family/friends will think which I know is probably daft!!

Perfectly fine, my sis and her husband have same gap and got together at 27/23, happily married with two kids, wouldn't even be mentioned the other way around. If you like him go go for it.

There’s a typo here surely? What age gap?!

It's hardly a huge gap you are in the same generation.

You are definitely over thinking it. As you say you wouldn’t blink if it was the other way around.

My friend is 6 years older than her husband you don't even realise there is an age difference.

Seems fine.

The age difference is a non-issue. I’d be concerned about experience difference, if he has never lived away from his parents.

No. I turned down a guy with a similar gap
in favour of a closer one because I was ready to marry have kids etc. Turned out the guy my age strung me along then went for someone younger, while the younger guy was more mature, family minded and settled down with the girl he started seeing after I turned him down.

Clicked on thread expecting 15+ yr age difference.

This gave me a good laugh.
25 and 29 is a pretty normal age difference I’d say.

My DH was 23 when we got together and I was 28. Been together 21 years, married with children. We're very happy and a good match.

The dude should always be older.

It actually shows an immaturity on your part, not his, to feel there is any issue. A) it truly doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of your life. B) Four years as two consenting adults is not a “gap”.

It's fine it's not a big age gap
I got with my now fiancé when I was 17 he was 20 now 23&26 engaged and have a baby

Not necessarily

You’re way overthinking. It’s a really small age gap

That doesn’t even count as an age gap. You can have your doubts for whatever reason you like but honestly I don’t think it’s the age gap that’s concerning you really.

What on earth…? No age gap at all!

My dh was 22 when I met him - I was 32 and divorced with a dd aged 5. I wasn’t sure how it was going to go but he seemed more mature than me 😳🙈 - 15 years and one Ds later we’re still together!

4 years?! That's not an age gap unless you are 8!

That is not an age gap.

He can get you that zimmer frame when you turn 30.

Good God @Dressingownvibes that's twice the age gap between DH and I. No problem.

My mother's husband is 80. She's 88. Works fine.

🤣😂 thanks all, made me feel better. Not sure why I was worrying!

That's not an age gap! My partner has just turned 27, I'm 40! Although we've just been to the pub and some knob asked if I was his mum 😒I'm not too wounded though, he'd literally just said the same to another couple where there wasn't an age gap so I think he's just generally a bit of a prick. I did offer him a game of darts but only if I could use his face as a dart board 😆

What age gap? My husband is 13 years older than me. I was 25 and he was 38 when we first got together

My husband was 25 and I was 30 when we met. Been married 26 years this year and it’s never been a problem.