Is it ignorant?

[DustyLee123]

I’m trying to find the right word to describe this, as if I’m to say anything about it I’ll get called a nag or a control freak.
So DH is retired and only gets up some time after 10am, whereas I’m up and about early. Most nights, after I’ve gone to bed, he makes himself a snack and leaves crumbs on the side. Now it’s obvious that I’m going to have to clean it up, so is ignorant the right word to describe that?

Inconsiderate?

Lazy in assuming you will do the cleaning up after him??

Lazy?

I’ve asked him at least one time before to clean up after himself, but he still doesn’t.

Lazy, entitled, selfish?

Op I would leave the mess until he gets up. Then he might realise there is no magic cleaning fairy that does it all....🙄

No, not ignorant.

Inconsiderate?

XH did stuff like this. Always the assumption that ‘someone else’ would clear it up. ‘I’m not your maid’ was a frequent response from me! I’d say it’s quite entitled and maybe self-absorbed? The assumption that someone else will clear up your mess for you.

If I left it he’d probably clean it up, but why should I have to look at it until he finally gets downstairs. The kids wouldn’t leave that mess, so why should I have to tolerate it from him.

My first thought was slovenly. Then I've been wondering is this a term used to describe male behaviour or is it usually just us females who get tagged in this way? But slovenly is what came to mind.

Apart from disliking the laziness and the entitled expectation some one will clean up after you I have a horror of attracting mice - as a student in lived flats with mice problems. So I'd never leave crumbs lying about and especially not over night.

If he’s not listening I would leave a largish note in the kitchen saying something like “I’ve left the kitchen clean and tidy which is how I’d like to find it blah blah”

That’s probably passive aggressive but as you’re not physically there to remind him it might be helpful to him. If he doesn’t like it ask him to explain why the fuck he thinks it’s ok to not clean up after himself.

He leaves it because he knows you’ll clean it. So the words are entitled arsehole you are looking for

Inconsiderate, lazy, rude, thoughtless, selfish.

I view ignorant as not knowing something. People on here often use it as synonymous with rude (I guess as in doesn't know how to be polite).

I’ve asked him not to do it again, and all I got was a non verbal agreement of the ‘hmm’ type.
It might seem petty, but it’s the entitlement that pisses me off,

That would bug me too but if you keep cleaning up after him it won't change.

If my DH did this (he wouldn't) the first thing I would do is ask 'why?' It's a useful strategy to get someone to examine their own behaviour and the potential impact on others. Maybe also get him to read this https://matthewfray.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/