My mum hasn't spoken a word to me in 4 days, yet we live in the same house.

[Elijah98]

So abit of context, I was home for a few days to see family though mostly to see university friends I hadn't seen in at least a year about a week ago. I'll be the first to admit it was kind of a wild few days with them. Alcohol does at times really not agree with me, especially if I'm driving the next day hang-xiety triggers anxiety manifestations. Anyway so I ended up getting the train home and lifted the car the next day - left at my brothers home at another city. But since coming to see family on the Sunday in my family city, she's not spoken a word to me. Dad lifted me from the train station and gave me a lecture about raining in the drink when I do and said to expect a lecture from mum but nothing.

Further back story is that since lockdown (2nd year uni 2019) to present day I have had a complex relationship with alcohol. I've gone through severe reliance, to moderation, back and forth, though never drink now unless I'm socialising, which isn't often at all. I'd be lucky if I go out 1-3x a month now a days. Part of me is thinking is she holding me having a bad reaction to it, which I know I can have, especially as I said if I drive the next day? Or what's going on.

I'm feeling extremely uncomfortable in the family home and today I didn't show to work as it's affected my mood as we have for the most part of my own life had a very close relationship. I would go to the gym, go a drive or grab a coffee with my mates to get out of the house but it's not pay day for another week.

What should I do?

Thanks,
E

So how does your dad know you were drinking for him to lecture you on reining it in? Why would he tell you to rein it in? Were you drunk when he picked you up. I don’t understand what lifting the car means? Sorry. So some of your post made no sense to me.

I’m guessing lifted is picked up.

Firstly you need to ask your Mum why she isn't talking to you. It sounds like from your description that it is because of your drinking.

It's not quite clear the timeline or where you were. It sounds like you went to one city to get drunk with friends for 3 days and left your car at your brothers because of anxiety (not because you were too shitfaced to drive after 3 days of drinking) then travelled to another city to see your parents who are pissed off they had to collect you from the station? Did you do something embarrassing when drunk in front of your brother? Were you meant to see them sooner but got drunk? Were you actually in your parents city and got drunk for 3 days nothing bothering to see them or let them know how you were? You clearly have an alcohol problem....it's not that alcohol disagrees with you....it disagrees with all of us...it sounds like you can't do moderation.

Stop drinking.

When it's affecting family members to the point they are lecturing you or ignoring you, and you're staying off work, you know you've gone too far and have some lifestyle changes to make and apologies to do.

Get whatever help you need to enable you to do this. There is a board on here that may help you. Good luck.

You're 26 based on your username and an alcoholic in denial.

I'd guess your mother is struggling watching you make a total mess of your life and doesn't know how to get through to your thick skull.

You shouldn't drink on a school night, is what they say.