I will list out things I encountered with her, I feel like I’m emotionally drained and just wanted clarity. Im no expert on the type of traits these people have but done a bit of reading over the last few days.
1 - Started talking sexual within the first day or two of speaking. “Addicted to porn” was the thing she said which i thought was odd for a woman to say so soon.
2.caught her texting to an ex while at my house. His message said “we should stop speaking now you have a partner” she said they are just friends
3.never knew where i stood, some days would fly off the handle at any little thing, it could be as simple as me saying I had an headache. Would start calling me negative etc
4.would repeatedly call me insecure and that i always accuse her, although she was exactly that. I recall one day she told me never to speak to her again because she saw i wasnt at home on the location sharing. I was at my daughters dance show. She never even apologised for that.
5.constantly had to have her phone in her hand looking at herself pouting through the camera, not even taking selfies just with the camera open. Im talking 30/40 times a day.
6.caught her messaging a different ex on three occasions, this ex is what i believe the “main supply” to be. On and off 6/7 years with the likes of me being the mini relationship.
7.told me he stalks her and drives past her house and calls and emails, which to be fair was also true. However she unblocked and messaged numerous times and the 3rd time i made her go home and didnt speak to her the next day until i got a message…..
8.after ignoring her she sent me a printscreen of her on the phone to the police, she was reporting him for stalking. I foolishly believed her and went to the police station with her
9.just 2 week later i stayed at her house and found a condom wrapper in her drawer that was still oily, i asked her civilised when it was from and she went absolutely crazy and called me out for “accusing again” i went home and she blocked me after failing to get a response from me
10.that night i went through to her house to find her “main supply” was there and theyve decided to get back together. Despite both families trying to stop it as being “toxic” his family also warned me away during the relationship calling her “poison”
11.i have her now blocked but everything was blamed on me. Repeatedly telling me she never cheated but how the accusations forced her into this situation. Also saying she feels like killing herself?
is this a true narcissist? Or is it a form of personality disorder? Its the first time ive had a relationship with someone like this so apologies if i am mistaken