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your favorite moment as a step parent

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momager1 · 16/07/2024 20:50

mine was.. I and my daughter had moved into my soon to be husbands apartment that he shared with his two boys (my sons now.. their mom agrees) The boys were offended when I moved in as I brought candles..nicer furniture and omg.. decor. LOL. We had a very quick courtship and engagement and wedding. Our youngest boy came in one day after school before wedding date was made solid (he would have been about 9) and saw me packing up my candles and my ornaments. He started crying. I asked what was wrong. He said "you are leaving us..just like moms boyfriends always do!!) hugged the little idiot (can say that now as he is 31) and told him...NO we are moving to a new house, we told you about looking for a house. I am just getting ahead of it. He switch to cool boy..ya whatever ma.. I knew that lmao.

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roundspongecake · 16/07/2024 20:51

They bought me a mug out of their own money off their own bat for christmas

momager1 · 16/07/2024 20:55

roundspongecake · 16/07/2024 20:51

They bought me a mug out of their own money off their own bat for christmas

isn't it lovely when they do something for you. I am lucky that my husbands ex wife appreciates how much I love the boys and does not freak that they call me "ma".. I never asked.. just happened as my daughter calls me ma

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Itsmeamandaberry · 16/07/2024 21:12

When they go home to their mums and take their arguing with them. It's been a looooooooooooooong weekend.

Everintroverte · 16/07/2024 21:21

Picking them up from school (with Dad) and they cheer and give me a big hug. Coming to sit with me or asking me for help always makes me smile too.

SOxon · 16/07/2024 21:24

when he took himself off to live in Australia

sentfrmmyiphone · 16/07/2024 21:24

... when they leave!

Itsmeamandaberry · 16/07/2024 21:27

Thank god @sentfrmmyiphone and @SOxon came along

LutonBeds · 16/07/2024 21:28

The day I decided none of it was worth the relationship and left.

sentfrmmyiphone · 16/07/2024 21:29

Itsmeamandaberry · 16/07/2024 21:27

Thank god @sentfrmmyiphone and @SOxon came along

😂😂😂. it takes a special person to be a step mother... i am very clearly not that person

SOxon · 16/07/2024 21:29

and @LutonBeds !

Oodiks · 16/07/2024 21:35

SOxon · 16/07/2024 21:24

when he took himself off to live in Australia

LOL

sunflowrsngunpowdr · 16/07/2024 22:05

Weird post, why would you refer to them as your sons when they are your step sons?

Oodiks · 16/07/2024 22:40

sunflowrsngunpowdr · 16/07/2024 22:05

Weird post, why would you refer to them as your sons when they are your step sons?

Because she has a motherly relationship to them. What's it to you?

Deathraystare · 17/07/2024 08:31

@@sunflowrsngunpowdr

Hardly a problem! I think it is nice she feels that way.

momager1 · 18/07/2024 12:55

sunflowrsngunpowdr · 16/07/2024 22:05

Weird post, why would you refer to them as your sons when they are your step sons?

If that was directed at me. Because he came as a package deal. He adopted our daughter, she loves him as dad. She loves her legal now brothers . We decided very early on (with my husbands ex wifes approval) That there are No Steps in our family. Everyone is on equal footing. That goes for when the boys used to do every other weekend with their mom. She always invited our daughter along, and sometimes she went. Just last year our 35 year old daughter and her husband attended my husband's ex wifes wedding with her brothers. I helped raise them until they flew the nest as they lived with us full time. So YA they are my sons. I love them as much as if I had birthed them.

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momager1 · 21/07/2024 17:08

momager1 · 18/07/2024 12:55

If that was directed at me. Because he came as a package deal. He adopted our daughter, she loves him as dad. She loves her legal now brothers . We decided very early on (with my husbands ex wifes approval) That there are No Steps in our family. Everyone is on equal footing. That goes for when the boys used to do every other weekend with their mom. She always invited our daughter along, and sometimes she went. Just last year our 35 year old daughter and her husband attended my husband's ex wifes wedding with her brothers. I helped raise them until they flew the nest as they lived with us full time. So YA they are my sons. I love them as much as if I had birthed them.

also to add. My husbands ex wife (who is def not my best friend..but we respect each other) has our daughter and photos on her facebook and calls her HER daughter. I do not get my panties in a bunch for this, I am grateful that for over 20 years we have been co parents and loved each others as our own. worked well for us.

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