Appearance satisfaction/revenge

[finallygone]

My oh cheated on me few years ago long story but we stayed together.
The ow In question half my size blah blah blah but I can't get out of my head how next time I see her I want to look better in every way.
I know the advice is going be don't worry about her etc but has anyone done the whole appearance overall which made them personality feel better and also was a two fingers to the ow.
She is nasty as she comes across as kind and nice but a snake and I know people are going tell me not to bother but anyone out there got some good stories where they did overall their appearance quietly and it made them regain their self esteem and feel good? I want to really look different in a few months.

I'm sure loads of people have got I lost weight, got fit, changed my hair and now I look great! stories.

Your fixation on the OW is unhealthy. I don't see how you making positive changes to your life is going to he a two fingers up to her or impact her in anyway, tbh.

Will she even notice, or care?

If you want to look better, do it for you not someone else.

I absolutely did this, ex boyfriend cheated years ago. I upped my game, got fitter and made myself feel great about myself. The ex got with the OW and a few years later I randomly bumped into him in a different city for work, he was all over me. I slept with him then took great pleasure in telling the OW.

Very petty and mean but great satisfaction.

I get where you’re coming from , I didn’t stay with cheating ex husband but I picked myself up and I’m happy .. and I don’t think about them.. and that makes for the best revenge.

Perhaps you need to think about why this woman takes up so much space in your head?
Are you comfortable in your relationship given what’s happened or are you hanging on to him just so she can’t have him?

I wouldn't waste your headspace on the ow, they obviously didn't give you much thought when they had a fling with your oh. They may already pity you deciding to stay with a cheater. The main issue is with your partner making you feel inadequate by having the fling in the first place. Yes lose weight and get fit, but for you.

I wouldn’t even stay with the man

You’re still with him? Are you under the impression he cheated on you because of how you look?

Make some changes if you want to but I doubt she’ll care. Do it for you. And dump him!

It's not her that's the snake, is it? It's him.

You'd probably look better if you kicked him out and stopped focusing upon how much more attractive/slimmer she is than you, because you wouldn't have his cheating arse hanging around in your face all the time.

Yea revenge body is directed at the cheater, not the OW. You are blaming the wrong person.

The first thing is to ditch the cheating man, how are you supposed to feel good about yourself when you know you have a dirty dog ?
He will always look for someone easier, cuter, younger , etc he is the issue, not you, not even the gal he cheated with.
Him.
Get rid and you will look miles better!

Get your revenge body, any other little tweakments, become obsessed with yourself then cheat on him before you dump him ✌️

I blame both of them not just the ow and blame my oh more but still would like to feel better in myself.
I'm sure the ow does pity me because of what she and my oh did and she is better looking in her figure than me although I am pretty and wouldn't want her face and she was married and had kids too. But she is very confident in herself and around men.
I am not worried that if she does pity me as I pity her and her oh and kids. I am a billion times better person and have just realised how pathetic she is. She is shallow but maybe you are right posters I am wasting too much energy on her. She does have the looks but I wouldn't want to be her or have her life. I will move on. It's my decision to stay with oh but won't if there is a repeat.

I wouldn't condone it on the grounds of this ow. But if you want to make positive changes that's great. If you're overweight I guess you could try injections? Obviously try and cut down on UPF, reduce portions etc as well.
Could you join a gym, or a fitness class? If budget is tight go outdoor gym with a mate. But you'll need to stick to exercising for half an hour or more a day I'd say.
Maybe get your hair done, choose some new clothes? A nice new fragrance?
But only do it for your own self esteem and health, not to compare yourself to some horrible woman you don't need to think about. (Sorry, I know you didn't want to hear that part!)

I think not caring about the OW and maybe not being married to someone who cheated on you would help you regain your self esteem and make you feel good.

Dropping the dead weight of a cheating partner will make you look 100x better

Why would you ever see her again? Did he shit on his own doorstep? How can you avoid feeling humiliated by him no matter how good you look? Does focusing on her and your appearance help you forget that he was the one that cheated on you? Why have you decided to do this 3 years later?

I think the best thing for your self esteem would be to leave him, you deserve a thousand times more than to be worrying about your appearance and trying to one up the other woman. It's years later and this is still playing hugely on your mind, don't you deserve some peace?