Around 7 months ago my ex left me after a long term relationship and two children. After a couple of months I started seeing someone new and things were really rushed from both sides. I was told she has never loved anyone like she loved me, things were going well initially and we went official pretty quickly.
Arguments then started, I caught her messaging her ex on three different occasions, mainly asking him to leave her alone but it was always when we had an argument she would unblock him to message. The first time I saw it over her shoulder, the other times I had gut feelings and she admitted it to me. I asked her to leave my house and go home the 3rd time, I was bombarded with phone calls and texts and I just kept ignoring her. Then she sent me a screenshot on the phone to the police, apparently he has been driving past her house and "stalking" her. I believe it was a way to get me on board again, i supported her and went to the police station with her and gave her another chance.
Friday I stayed at her house, while she was at the gym I hoovered and tidied her room to find a condom wrapper that was still "oily". I asked the question in a civil way as to when it was from when she returned. She flew off the handle calling me insecure and said she was sick of been accused. I went home and when I got home I noticed she had blocked me. I decided to drive through later that night and found her and her ex in the house. She's now saying she just needed someone to confide in, repeatedly telling me she has never cheated on me. crying to me on the phone saying she's suicidal and its all my fault this happened. She keeps saying things like she was scared to be around me when we had a drink, on my babies life I haven't done or said anything that should make her feel that way. Why is she making me question my own character? She tells me shes booked in the doctors tomorrow for her mental health. Have I dodged a bullet? I still feel sorry for her I need to get a grip.