If your childhood sweetheart and someone you had been with a couple of decades wrote this…

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I’m trying to let go of the resentment and guilt to how my life turned out.

How would you feel? Trying to understand if I’m overreacting by wanting to walk.

You need to talk to them about it. We can only guess.

I'd think there was something we needed to talk about, but wouldn't assume it was all about me.

Thank you both. It’s good to read different points of view.

I’ll definitely be asking the question.

You absolutely need to talk. Might not be related to you but it also could be as it’s ambiguous.

Is this in a message to you or in a diary?

I wouldn't assume it was about you especially. Sometimes life does make you resentful. I love my wife very much but sometimes I'm a bit resentful that other siblings have had much easier rides than me, some people have a lot more money etc. It pops up fairly commonly in threads people feeling like their life is harder than it should be.

When I get depressed, those thoughts become much more overwhelming

Mine isn't about wanting to swap my wife though, in fact some of it is frustration at not being able to give her a better life

I wouldn’t assume it was necessarily related to me, but maybe to professional or other disappointments. But yes, definitely need to talk.

Was this in a message to you, or have you been nosing through their diaries?

Could be related to work? Extended family relationships? Could be your relationship but you'd have to ask to find out.

Why do you assume that the frustration is about you? I have a close relative who feels that way, but it's nothing to do with their relationship. It's about their career and how their professional and financial dreams didn't work out,

You need to talk before walking, but I’d feel the same, and would jump to conclusions/overthink.

Where was it written? And to whom?

I think I would wonder what they felt guilty for. The guilt part would worry me.
Resentment could be down to anything - from health, money, house, work, that bit doesn’t necessarily relate to you.

We need to know the context. Was it in a letter to someone (you?) or in a diary, or what?

I'd talk to them. But you shouldn't assume it's about you. Might be about their career, their accomplishments, could be anything.

Weird, I can't see anything!

but others obviously can.

Nor can I. On iPhone.

I would probably say I feel this way too but nit in respect of DH, that's one thing j wouldn't change, but ih, if I could go back I would do so much differently

The first sentence in the OP is what he wrote. There's nothing else linked

Depends whether it was sent to you or read in a personal notes app or diary. Too little information given.

Talk to them. It may be a looming midlife crisis, but talking together is the only was to work towards moving forward. It almost sounds like a cry for help. Use it to have an open discussion as it may be time for you both to make some changes if you're in a rut.

That could mean anything, it could be them beating themselves up for choices they've made. It could be to do with work/carer, guilt at failing to provide the way they thought they would. They could feel they've let everyone down. It isn't a good way to phrase it, but when people are struggling or overwhelmed they can be way too focused on themselves to realise their words can hurt others. or they could be an arsehole you should kick to the curb. You'll only find out by talking to them.

Is this what he asked 'I’m trying to let go of the resentment and guilt to how my life turned out.'?

Where did you read this OP? On Facebook?