30th Wedding Anniversary

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It is our 30th wedding anniversary today, I gave my husband a card and gift and he said. I haven't got you a card, I will get you one when I go out. I replied that it is ok how would he be expected to remember it is only once a year.
If I had a full time job I would be so out of here. But I only earn £600 a month and am 58 with no qualifications.
I am so hurt.

He’s gotten complacent because you’ve been together so long. Tell him you’re hurt and that you’re unhappy. Tell him just because you’ve been together this long doesn’t mean he doesn’t need to make any effort. Tell him you’re on the verge of leaving the relationship because you’re so unhappy. Also, if you really don’t want to be with him anymore, apply for universal credit. You can claim this while you’re working but on a low income. It will top up your income so you have enough to live on. Also, look at other job options. You don’t need qualifications to work in a supermarket and they employ people in their 50’s. Also, speak to your current employer about giving you more hours. If you don’t already have any hobbies outside of your marriage, I would encourage you to start doing things that interest you. You could also take an evening course at college and brush up on existing skills or learn new ones. Do whatever you need to do to boost your confidence. I don’t know what the rest of your relationship is like but if it’s generally ok and not abusive, it could be that your husband is just an idiot who’s got too complacent and isn’t making any effort and needs a kick up the backside. If he’s abusive, that’s different and you should speak to women’s aid about making an exist plan. They can also help you with rehousing and benefits advice.

It depends on how your relationship is in general.
There are many more important things on a day to day basis - that’s what’s really important.

We don’t celebrate our wedding anniversary. 25th and 30th went by without a mention.

How is that helpful to the OP?

Tell him you don't want a card, you want him to take you on a nice posh meal out.

Put your foot down.

Well yes but that's obviously the norm in your relationship so not an issue.

But OP bought her DH a card and gift so that presumably is the norm in her marriage.

OP I think @TipsyJoker
gave you some good advice.

Everyone is different. I am the sort of romantic fool to say "happy 100 days of dating" and will ALWAYS do nice things at every anniversary. Even reminding them it was say 1 year ago we both swiped right.

My ex though, was the opposite - didnt even do fathers day card for her dad, is was just her way. So had we still been together, she would have got a nice card etc this Friday, I would have got nothing but I know thats who she is and as I love her so much it would not have made any difference.