Separated Dad of child with complex needs..

[balsamicbabe]

He lives with his wife, they are separated five years. All verified.
He cares for his young son who has complex physical and mental difficulties with his wife, as well as working full time.

They need to separate, he says but he cannot bear the thought of leaving his children, especially his son and neither he nor his wife will not be able to cope without shared care.

It is tragic beyond words. He is so lonely as I'm sure she is also.
His free time, like mine is limited but he would also like companionship and intimacy.
Would I be crazy to begin something here?

Has he dated other people during the separation?

Are you ok living in your current area indefinitely? Do you want children of your own ? It sounds like he wouldn’t be able to parent any more kids.

How would you feel if he was unable to be with you for special occasions like Christmas?

How are his finances? I’d imagine that shared care would mean limited time for earning and that a lot of his wages would be going on his child rather than couple stuff like holidays and dates.

So he won't leave the family home because he cannot bear to leave his children and is committed to sharing care for his ds with extra needs.

Any relationship, therefore would mean you could never live together. You will at most get a few hours together, maybe two or three times a week.

Is that enough for you? How do you cope with being alone? Going on holiday alone? Socialising alone? Suppose you were ill and needed him to step up.

Only you can answer that. How old are his children?

Run as fast as you can. Far too much baggage.🧳

What do you want out of it? Occasional sex? It’s not likely to ever be anything more if he has caring responsibilities and will be living with his wife, so if you want anything resembling a relationship, keep looking.