Hi everyone, would really appreciate your thoughts on this.
A couple of weeks ago starting talking to a guy on a dating app. Seemed nice, only issue was it seemed like a few times he wasn’t reading my messages properly as he would then either not answer the question or repeat a question I had already answered a few messages back.
Anyway quite quickly he mentioned meeting up, ok I thought, bit sooner than normal but sometimes it makes sense to see if there is any spark there.
On Friday we went out for dinner, he offered to pick me up twice but I said no it’s fine. He gave me flowers which was sweet and we sat down. He seems nice, but I did wonder if maybe there is an additional need there from the way he was speaking. I tried hard to figure out if there was and I’m not quite sure.
We spoke throughout the meal, he was friendly and kind, gave me the menu first etc, opened the door for me.
We spoke a little about his son, and he started saying what a rough time he had with his ex, she didn’t want him to have anything to do with the boy, he went to court numerous times and she reported him to social services twice (from what I could make out). They were together 2 years and she got pregnant in the November and by January she left him. He said she just wanted a baby. He said how she’s nuts etc and has done the same thing to another man and she turned his son off him and for years the little boy would cry when he had him. He did say this year had got a lot better and he now has him for one day and one overnight EOW. He also said it made him nearly lose his job (he is in security-cameras/alarms etc)
He also spoke about another ex, who had been cheated on and how she was very insecure and blew up his phone non stop, and turned up on his doorstep.
At the end of the night he walked me to my car and kissed me, saying afterwards “Oh you like me then” and laughed.
The next day he asked me to come round to his to relax. I said no I’d rather wait until we have been out a couple more times.
He has messaged me lots since and called me once (I didn’t answer the call but have responded to some of the messages)
I don’t know what to do…..I feel like the social services/ex chat is just such a warning sign! I work in children’s services and know a bit about procedures and of course there is a chance she is out of order but if he was a nice guy why would she leave him straight away?
And the amount of contact-it’s too much after one day, I don’t need 20ish messages per day.
What do you think I should do?