I'm wondering if anyone can help. I'm having trouble with my sister who, despite me trying to block her from contacting me, has still found a way to email me through an old email address I only use for ordering things - she hasn't used it to contact me for years but the one she has used recently I have successfully blocked her from so I guess she's trying other avenues. She has in the past tried messaging me through my business platform and I was supported by the platform, which resulted in her being warned for harassment. According to my family, I was in the wrong for getting the business platform to do this.
For context, after my husband naively hired her new boyfriend to work as a contractor for his business by trying to help him out, and he performed extremely poorly and nearly ruined the business, my husbands business partner decided to end the contract. As a result, my sister threatened my husband and so I made it clear that this was unacceptable and if she wanted to regain contact, we needed an apology. She has a child who is 6 have a child who is 1; it's so sad that there's children involved but my thinking is if she's willing to threaten a grown man, could she potentially do the same to my child? Ever since then, every time I've tried to repair (against the advice of my friends who say she's a narcissist and should be out of my life), she's responded with manipulative, bullying words. Her recent email to me included her trying to suggest me sending her son a present for his birthday was confusing him and making him realise there's a problem in the family. My husband and friends say that's nonsense because a 6 year old doesn't think like that unless the idea is put into their head but I still feel terrible. I knew if I didn't send a gift, that would be wrong too and I'd have received an equally manipulative email. I would never want to hurt my nephew and she has given me an ultimatum - be more present in his life (meaning I have to put up with her b.s and forcing me to let her see my child) or don't be in his life at all so I'm now thinking I want to set up something in my will to leave my nephew some money because I love and care for him.
I've been bullied by my sister all my life and only in my thirties am realising it. I don't have the support of my family, who think it's worse to expose what's going on than what my sister has actually done. So I am totally lost.
Should I go to the police to stop the contact? Should I send a solicitors letter? Or do I just keep blocking?
Or is she right, and is my family right, and I should just pretend like everything is ok? Deep down I don't want to I feel the need to protect my son and stop the generational trauma.
Your thoughts will be much appreciated. Thankyou.