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Think it's over.

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mylefthand · 13/07/2024 19:39

On Monday DH and I had words. Well I spoke, he (sort of) listened.
It all came out, I'm fed up of his lazy ways and most importantly I'm sick and tired of playing referee between him and my older teens! Loads of other stuff too but would have to write an essay haha.
He is childish, petty and sulks if things are not 'his way'. I've had enough.
I said I need a break to think about our future.
He has gone to stay with his mum, just for the weekend (I'm going to suggest longer) and it has been absolute bliss.
He went yesterday. Me and teens ate dinner together last night for the first time in months as they can't really stand to be in the same room as him.
I got up this morning, done all the housework without seething that he is lazing about while I'm busy and sat and watched the tennis without constant moans (because he wants to play games console)!
Our 5 year old asked first thing this morning where Daddy is and has not asked again all day.
I know it's only been 1 day but I feel relaxed and happy.
I think our marriage is over, I just need to tell him now.
No point to this post, just feels good to get it off my chest.

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hsar200 · 13/07/2024 19:42

I'm happy for you to have figured this out! Sorry I just felt like you maybe needed to hear something but it does sound best for you both to separate in this situation. You deserve more. X

Oodiks · 13/07/2024 19:47

Long may it last. It’s been 2 and a half years and even difficult days are better within him.

Wishing you all the best!

mylefthand · 16/07/2024 09:05

Thank you both.
It's been a wonderful weekend. He is now staying longer at his mums, we are going to talk at the weekend.
Today I am feeling quite angry about it all. He has no fight, there has been no promise of change, no asking to reconsider and that makes me feel like he doesn't actually care. He also did not once text or call to ask how our LO is!!

So now just getting on with my week working, sorting afterschool childcare and spending precious time with my lovely children.

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