Finally did it …..

[Done2024]

Hi,

Any advice on how to navigate a breakup whilst on maternity leave? We’re not married, have a joint mortgage and I have a deed of trust.

When should I seek legal advice? I do not
wish to return to work earlier. Nor am I expected to. My partner wants to buy me out the house- fine I can’t afford it.

He says he wants 50/50 care great. But i’m sure how he’ll make this work as always working ridiculous hours. Also plays a sport all day Saturday for half the year & is out every Saturday night in season.

Can anyone offer advice on what to do next
please? I did think I’d have to wait until I get back to work in Jan but want to be sure. TIA x

Sorry this is happening but you are right to think about the logistics.
How do you feel about the 50/50 ?
50/50 means overnight. not just dropping in for a few hours after work in your house using all your available kit then going down the pub & home for a good night's sleep.
If you are exclusively breast feeding he will only be able to have time between feeds, unless you express & give him a supply. (some people can't express)
It is highly unlikely he will want to take on real 50/50 unless he goes home to live with his mother, hires a Nanny or finds live in help.
He is not going to manage. He may think he can, but if he has a full time job with long hours its ludicrous, he can't !
You can simply say you are EBF, & the 50/50 will have to wait until baby is weaned. this gives you 6 or more months for him to discover that being responsible for a baby doesn't fit with the Rugby season, Pub, etc
Often the standard split is EOW & a night after work & half the holidays.
Remember that any routine you install may be continued if it gets into dispute & you end up going to court. & you will also want a w/e when you go back to work.
So don't allow him to have every w/e. This is also when your child will have hair cuts, new shoes, birthday parties, time with GP ...