When I first started dating my dh it was online and I said that I was high maintenance. I'm not really, I like to get my nails done once a month, my hair done every 6 weeks and Botox twice a year - all of which I pay for with my money. At the time he joked and said that was fine.
However, I now want surgery on my eyelids using money from my premium bonds (which he purchased about 8 years ago for me).
When I told him this he said I brought nothing to the relationship, I'm vain, selfish, think only of myself and "take take take". I never realised that when he gave me the premium bonds they weren't mine to do what I want with. I already had £24,000 worth and used £12,000 to buy our new kitchen. I also gave him £2000 for spending money on a recent holiday we had.
He said he's "not funding" my vanity.
i asked him to try and understand how I feel and support me as if he wanted to change anything about himself I would be with him 100% and he said that of course I would be because I'm shallow and vain.
We're not short of money and have a comfortable lifestyle so I'm not sure what he expects me to do with the bonds. I could argue that the money I used for the kitchen came from his bonds and my ones are being used if I go for the surgery but that would no doubt cause another argument.
i feel as though he now expects me to comply with what he wants and say no more about it.