My MIL won’t let acknowledge me, please help. It’s not a horrible MIL thread.

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I’ve been with my partner 5 years now. The relationship has just never developed. Since I mentioned my mum has this illness (M.S, life long and limiting for some) she won’t get near me really. Her own mum died of this when she was a young child. I suspect she can’t cope with how I bring up her past feelings. Is there anything I can do or just accept that she just can’t. It’s really sad as I can tell it affects my partner. She hardly sees our children. I’m like this big flashing don’t go near beacon.

Have you tried talking to her about it?
Like, directly, kindly but clearly?
"Hey, MIL, I've always hoped we would develop a relationship. I'm quite sad that we haven't. I don't know if this is something you've noticed as well.
Would it have anything to do with my mum having MS, or am I just dreaming that up to make sense of the situation?"

No judgement, no big drama. Just clear and open communication.