Ex shar

[O5h]

My ex fiancé and I of 7 years with a 10 month old son split 6 months ago when I found out she was seeing another person (a girl in fact). Our relationship broke down as she continued to be emotionally tied with this girl and come to terms with her sexuality. After coming to terms with the pain of what has gone on (which I’m still coming to terms with) I asked my ex that our son is not introduced to new partners too early and certainly does not overnight with them early on as it doesn’t feel right. I found out tonight that my ex has her new partner over the night whilst looking after my son and it has really upset me and made me feel angry. am I right to feel so upset and annoyed? Am I right to ask her not to do this or at least not to do this so soon? I feel I am being replaced as a father and struggling to come to terms with the change

You have every right to be upset. Especially as you had specifically asked to hold off on introducing your child to new partners.

You can ask her again to keep to your agreement but unfortunately it is up to her if she decides to or not.

I am sure it must feel unsettling but know that you are not being replaced as a father. As long as you maintain a consistent presence in your child’s life you will form a strong and secure attachment to one another that no one can replace.

Is this your second thread?

How long have they been together? I know you've been split for 6 months, but was the affair overlapping as far as you know? Is she living with this person now?
If it seems serious then inevitably your child will meet with her. Do you have any active safeguarding concerns? Would it help if you met the partner also? It must be really upsetting for you. It's disrespectful of her. But the best way forward might be to try and accept this person might be in your child's life. Keep seeing and providing for your child regularly and there's no way you'll be 'replaced as a father'.