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Just fed up and venting

32 replies

EveryonesMother · 11/07/2024 15:37

I am just fed up....sorry
Fed up of always being in trouble for small things.
My moto has always been dont sweat the small stuff.
Lifes too short.

But.....

I have just been ranted at for throwing an empty plastic bread bag in the bin that had been stuffed down the side of the cutlery tray.
Its just silly.😁
I was emptying the dishwasher putting cuttlery away, saw it, thought someone in the house was just too lazy to bin it so i did. {there are teens in the house, normal stuff} like empty cereal boxes etc.
But apparently OH had put it there to use for something later. Now i am being ranted at for "touching his things" I apparently do it all the time.
I would call it tidying up. When he leaves empty beer cans, old newspapers etc.....same thing?? or not?
Hes been slamming doors, slamming things down hard, basically stomping his feet like a child whose had his tot taken away.
Twice this week i have been "chastised" over my parking on the drive. Its a large drive for 4-5 cars but i didnt park exactly like he wanted hence a rant.

It gets very wearing when little things constantly lead to being spoken to like c*
Im tired of these outbursts. I dont deserve them.
Im so over men!

Sorry peeps. Rant over.
Thank you for being here.
X

OP posts:
RanchRat · 14/07/2024 13:00

In 35 years of marriage I have never been 'in trouble' with my DH, nor have I
been ranted at. LTB

EveryonesMother · 14/07/2024 15:43

He is still going on about it.
I messed him about being an hour and half to the pub etc etc
Gone over where i was again.
I have said that regardless it did not warrant the abuse i got.
HE SAID I DESERVE IT.

And now he has invited his son and family for Sunday tea and expects me to play happy family.

Its not going to happen.
I have had enough.

OP posts:
GrazingSheep · 14/07/2024 15:48

Tell people what he is like. Starting today.

Nanny0gg · 14/07/2024 15:50

EveryonesMother · 14/07/2024 09:41

I spent last night in the spare room after another drunken ranting.
I called him on my way home from work to ask if we needed any shopping, I was then dropping in at home to feed the animals and my son then going on the collect him from the pub.
Its 25 mins home. I was 30 mins at home, drove to pub, had a chat with someone in the car park and walked in to a row about how long I had been.
How it was my fault he was drunk because i had taken so long etc....in front of the bar staff and someone else who walked away.
I walked out. After a long day at work i didnt need it.
Someone asked me if he was alright?
Then two of his drinking friends came to me at the car and asked if I was alright.
I knew there would be more when he got home.
There was.
I was yelled at, ridiculed, called a liar, told I live on 'PLANET BLONDE' all because i didnt tell him how long i would be.
He knew i was coming from work. I told him i was going home first. The math is easy. He didnt have to stay and wait for me.

If he read this he would probably say i was deluded, a liar, that my version of events is not reality.....

This morning he has text asking if we are going for lunch with his family? like nothing happened!

Sometimes i feel like i am losing my mind

It's about time you lost him

Can you start the process of disentangling?

Nanny0gg · 14/07/2024 15:50

EveryonesMother · 14/07/2024 15:43

He is still going on about it.
I messed him about being an hour and half to the pub etc etc
Gone over where i was again.
I have said that regardless it did not warrant the abuse i got.
HE SAID I DESERVE IT.

And now he has invited his son and family for Sunday tea and expects me to play happy family.

Its not going to happen.
I have had enough.

Good

Do they know what he's like?

EveryonesMother · 14/07/2024 17:32

He just came into my room to ask if i was joining them for tea.
I asked if he was going to apologise and he just laughed saying i should be the one doing that.
Told him what he was saying to me and about me and that he was abusive and an abuser and that I was not going to play at happy families with him.
He laughed at me accusing me of sulking.

Im done!

OP posts:
Bittenonce · 14/07/2024 19:20

@EveryonesMother I wanted to give the guy some benefit of the doubt. But he’s just said ‘I don’t care’. All I can do is send hugs

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