Escaped DA but still getting abusive messages

[Ninkynonk2021]

Hi
long story short I finally got my abusive ex to leave approx 5 months ago, we have 1 dd together.
he doesn’t bother a great deal with our child, most of the time will ask to see them but then cancel on the day (I feel to mess up any plans I may have) when he does see dd it’s for one night maybe once every 3/4 weeks. Breaks me when I used to tell dd daddy will be picking you up tomorrow and they’d get so excited only for dad not to show.
i don’t care whether he sees her or not tbh he adds no value, what is bothering me is keeping the lines of communication open, trying to be a decent person yet at every opportunity he uses this to abuse me.
yesterday for example I was called a twat, a prick, ugly, a scruff etc
does it stop? Genuinely does the abuse ever stop or do I have to wait until she’s 18 to completely cut ties?
he says he has a new girlfriend and has for a while so why not concentrate on her and leave me the hell alone.
in context I have blocked him on everything, only way to contact is email

What an unpleasant person you have to deal with.

Download app close and tell him that he needs to do the same to communicate about child contact in future. It’s free and allows you to save every communication and means you only have to open it when relevant and he’s separate from your life the rest of the time. Best case scenario is that he’ll realise it’s all recorded and so will reduce the horrible messages to you. If not, you have a good record in case you ever want/need to take further action.

You might want to consider contacting a charity like women’s aid that could offer you a freedom programme course to help you understand and reframe your experiences.

Sound to me he using baby as a weapon to get at u don’t rise to it don’t message back ask urself do u need him ? no ur doing it on ur own ur questioning urself says it all bout him smile and get on with it best karma ❤️ …. Don’t tell baby that he coming… and don’t rely on the waste of space I got this 💪🏻

If he is sending you abusive messages I would keep them as evidence.

You can report him to the police for harassment and I would speak to women’s aid/a solicitor for advice regarding stopping contact on the grounds of his abusive behaviour. He would then have to take you to court and likely be offered supervised contract in a contact centre which would take away his ability to abuse you.

I echo as above go to police about it to get him to back off and get it recorded.

Secondly, if must be contact, I'd find out about a contact centre then he has no need to message you anymore. You could change your number then.