What age were your children when they stopped seeing their dad?

[Campari20]

And why?

Seems like it's heading that way for my DD.

My DD made the decision to go NC at 21. Entirely her decision which I did not express an opinion on except for telling her to do what she thought was best for her. Her reasons were that he is a useless parent, has said some unnecessarily hurtful things to her and she could not see that he brought anything positive to her life. That was over 12 years ago. I wish that she could have had a better relationship with him but it is what it is.

My DS hasn’t had any contact with his dad since he was 15. He’s now 27. He figured out for himself that his dad couldn’t be relied upon and had nothing to offer him

My 11yo DD hasn’t seen her dad (different dad to DS) for about 8 weeks and so far doesn’t want to see him. She FaceTimed him about 3 weeks ago and knows I’ll facilitate contact if she wants it but she’s not interested. Unfortunately he’s an alcoholic and can’t be trusted to keep her safe so any contact would need to be supervised

A month after they were 2, I know the exact date. tlThe last time they had dropped them off. That was over 14 years ago.
Why.
(contact agreed on a EOW)
I started to say No!
No, to chaotic contact - turning up randomly
No to changing contact - got a better offer that weekend cancelled/didn't show
No I shouldn't be paying you to 'babysit' - I would pay him to look after their child as well as dropoff/pick up so he could avoid travel costs
I asked to get something official drawn up, he never came back, I never reached out.
How old is DD?

Even though his contact was erratic at times, he messed them about being late and he always put himself first, married without telling them etc., they haven't stopped seeing him.

Things were a little easier when he didn't have to pick them up, but could pay for a coach ride for them, to him.(I wasn't keen, but kept out of it, I felt it lacked care) . They were also easier when they got their own phones and could manage their own contact, without me.

They are young adults now. They know what their dad is about.

They love their dad. In fact, one has moved closer to him.

Relationships are important, they have a measured approach which I support, but keep out of.