How to look to the future

[Confusedbutthatsnormalformetbh]

i grew up in a not very nice home. My dad was a bully. He was quite intense as well. He would tell me I was a bad person, that I wouldn’t ever have friends, that I’d made his and my mums life a misery. He would give me dirty looks as I walked in a room and it was deeply unpleasant. My mother seemed so nice but no matter what I said to her about how hurt I was she never really did very much about it. She almost just sort of decided it would be easier to think of the whole thing as “ this isn’t really happening.” His bullying continued into my adulthood. I had an eating disorder and lots of mental and physical health issues. In the pandemic I didn’t see them for three months and life began to feel nice I felt free. I went no contact with my family. Life now is okay. I have no one really only my child and he is so fab so it’s okay. I just wondered if anyone else had ever had to do this. How did you forget and move on how did you put it all to bed and find a life of joy after many years of bullying and then having to leave your family behind? X

I haven’t had your experiences but this is awful, and you’re amazing for breaking free from it. You must be very strong. Look after yourself and your little one.

I’m n/c with all of my family for similar reasons. I’ve had lots of therapy. My therapist said recently not to call myself a victim, but victorious because I had overcome so much in my life and done so well.
Hugs to you. It’s very difficult but you’ve done the hardest part. Now you need to work on yourself (therapy) and filling your life with decent people.