I came out of a really horrible breakup about a year ago, was engaged, bought a house and thought that life was going to be great. Except it wasn't, because my relationship was toxic and I was in denial. Long story short, I left and went to live in a house share. It was horrible, i've had a very long healing process from it and I have had little to no interest in men in any romantic capacity whatsoever. The whole situation was traumatising and nasty, and I couldn't have thought of anything worse than ANOTHER man in my life shitting over my peace.
A year later life is actually pretty ace. I have hobbies, friends, plenty of time alone and even a solo trip booked. I'm also in the best shape of my life!
I've been on a few dates during the last year, very half hearted, most of them were ok actually, but I didn't really feel any kind of connection.
One particular guy I went on a date with in April seemed nice, I even took him a sunflower seedling because he said he loved plants, and I had a ton of these seedlings spare. Date was ok, went to various bars, I bought most of the drinks which didn't impress me much. He asked to see me again, I said sure, but he never got around to organising anything and I eventually said i wasn't interested which he seemed suprised about.
Fast forward 8 weeks, and I randomly get a message from him with a photo of the sunflower I gave him, he then asked if I was free that evening for a drink. I decided to go, it was a hot day, I was bored, why not. He bought a bottle of wine for us and we had a nice evening together, despite the fact I was a little tipsy because I don't really drink. He kissed me and I probably foolishly walked home with him in the dark... he was very respectful but I do admit it was a bit of a silly thing to do.
I lived in one direction and him in the other about 5 minutes away, so we went our seperate ways, he checked I got back ok and then I didn't hear from him for 4 days. When I did hear from him he asked if I'd like to spend more time with him, I was fine with it but a bit peeved with the lack of contact for 4 days, but whatever, I didn't really care either way that much. He's text me every now and then since for the last couple of weeks. I haven't made the effort to see him again because I wasn't really bothered.
Anyway... I have literally NO idea what has happened but apparently over night, I've suddenly developed a MAJOR crush on this guy. No idea what has caused it, where it's come from or what the actual eff, but it's almost like I've spent time percolating on this date and suddenly decided that this guy is super hot and i want to see him again. This is coming from someone who honestly wanted all men to get in the bin, had zero patience for them and could not be arsed to go to bed with one of them because it would be too much hassle. But now apparently all that has changed out of absolutely nowhere.
This guy has never been disrespectful towards me, never made a single lewd comment towards me either and has done nothing to warrant the weird reaction i've suddenly developed. I cannot stop thinking about him.
Has this happened to anyone else?? I just find it really really weird. I guess this means I am over my ex then!!