Looking for advice /help

[Wmjm1975]

Hi all. I don't know who to ask for advice as generally I am someone who keeps things to themselves. So I'm a guy looking for a bit of friendly help.
The general situation is we have been in a relationship for 7 years. For 6 years no affection, no sex...and I mean nothing. Goes on regular holidays as she can afford it but I can't. We live together and Don't argue. .....the advice seems obvious but I love her and well if I leave I have nowhere to go.

so i’m guessing she earns a great deal more than you?

her home?

any children?

@Wmjm1975 what she goes on holidays and doesn’t take you with her ???? Why ? And why no sex what happened in your relationship ? How old are you both ? Have you got kids ?

@Wmjm1975 who is the one who isn’t interested in sex ? And why did it change ?

She goes with family , to visit places so not going with friends to party. We don't have children but we did want them. I gave up bring that topic up a few years ago. She is in her mid 30s me mid 40s

If I could afford a nice holiday and my DP couldn’t I’d find somewhere cheaper or subsidise them so we could go together. Although wouldn’t stay in a sexless relationship either. Sounds a bit shit all round and staying because there’s nowhere else to go is awful, for both of you.

Weird as it sounds I think she is happy. The no sex is certainly from her. Neither of us work full time due to mental health conditions. We volunteer though. She has savings.

I was your partner once. She lives you like a friend, and knows you have nowhere else to go, so is putting you first actually, and can't bear to hurt you.

For both your sakes, you need to leave.

@Wmjm1975 weird that she goes on holidays with her family but never thinks to go with you as a couple ? 😞 strange
I feel like it’s more of a friendship rather than relationship . You’re just there as a friend, you don’t both do things that normally happens in romantic relationship . She doesn’t seem to be interested in you , doesn’t want to explore the world with you , doesn’t want sex , I feel like she has abandoned you and youre needs and she knows you won’t complain or argue about it as you’d have nowhere to go and she don’t want to break your heart so she’s just letting you stay but she’s acting single .

Wouldn't you be happier living elsewhere?
I can't imagine having a sex-free marriage.
Or going on holiday without my DH.