To not dream about DP?

[Rainbowbaby234]

Just that really! We have been together 6 years, engaged, house, dog, 1 year old. He’s my entire life and I love him to pieces! But he’s never in my dreams??? It’s always ex-partners, or random men! DP frequently mentions his dreams with me….

Do you dream about your other half?

I don’t remember dreaming about him while he was alive, but he is very often in my dreams now that he’s gone.

@Rainbowbaby234 I'm exactly the same and I've often wondered why.

@EveryKneeShallBow That makes sense. I hope you are OK.

@EveryKneeShallBow so sorry to hear this. I wonder if there some logic behind it though.

Oh I am glad other people experience this too. I very rarely dream about DH but dream about exes frequently (even though I don't even think about them when I am awake and I am very happy with our life!) - I often wonder if it's some psychological tool/quirk.

I never dream about dh! Sometimes exs, old friends, my deceased mum and sister. And occasionally my children

Very rarely, I dream about my DC though, usually me not protecting them well enough, losing them. That kind of joyful stuff.

Do you think that if you have a good relationship with your partner and share your days easily and happily with them, talking stuff out, there is nothing left for you to work through in your mind?

My dreams seem to be about unresolved things, people I don't see, problems, people I grieve for, worries.......things that my mind uses sleep to work through.

I very very rarely dream about DP. There are people I never think about in the day (and never see) who regularly pop up in my dreams though.

I am so relieved to read your responses! 😂

Thanks @Rainbowbaby234 and @Lighteningstrikes I’m fine. I just thought I’d add I very often dream about celebrities who are still themselves in my dream, but they are also my best mate, or maybe a work colleague. I once went shopping with Victoria Beckham. In my day life I’m not particularly a fan, and I don’t really do girly shopping So 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think things that are happy and settled in your mind don't tend to provoke dreams.... I almost never dream about my (wonderful) DH, but have tons of repeating dreams about crushes that were never fulfilled!!!

Nope.... I dream about other blokes quite a bit though, including secret crushes 😳 Presumably just my subconscious exploring things that are never going to happen 🤣

Never. I’ve had far more dreams about a completely unimportant American bloke I knew when we were students. I was never close to him, never fancied him, never even knew him as anything than a random background person, but for some reason I’ve dreamt about him several times.

Mine and dh sex life has taken a hit since dd1 came along, so all my sexy dreams feature him now. When our sex life is good, I dream about celebrity/character crushes.

Though last night, I dreamt about having a 3some with dh and my long ago ex!

I only dream about partners or ex partners if things between us are not ok and they cause some level of anxiety. So not dreaming about a bf means things are going well :)

I had a dream about an ex last night. Was a nice excursion (non-sexual!)!

As someone else suggested, I think dreams are more likely to focus on situations that are unresolved or need processing somehow. Maybe this can also apply to exes through the filter of new relationships and new circumstances.

Maybe dreams can also have some element of wish fulfilment or soothing to them? So you dream about people who you miss and it’s kind of comforting

I don’t have dreams about my partner, I somehow know we are doing something or going somewhere together - he’s just not in my line of vision.

I do have dreams about celebrities often, and have an ongoing series of dreams where I’ve gone from working for Barack Obama to having a guest house permanently set up for me at his place and being best friends with him and Michelle 😀

I occasionally dream about him, when I do it’s always something unpleasant and I wake up unreasonably annoyed at him. We both find it quite amusing because he’s incredibly lovely and doesn’t do real life unpleasant things, he apologises for whatever dream him did 🤣
Good dreams and sex dreams are always about other people!

This is very similar to me. My dreams rarely ever feature my husband, but when they do they are always bonkers. He is either chasing me, (one time with a knife!), or being really, really annoying. It's so bizarre because I love him dearly and we have such a lovely relationship, no abuse ever. The husband in my dreams is not my husband in real life whatsoever.