Social media - past & new partners

[FloydPink]

Been thinking about this and keen to see what others think.

Ex-partners - When you split, do you remove all trace of them off social media? Like when you had a day out at the coast and tagged them in with selfies, or when you posted a loving birthday message with hearts while at a romantic view

New partners - When do you become FB friends and allow them into your life, seeing your friends and contacts etc..

For me, I removed all trace of my wife after our split due to us having a pretty bad relationship post split (now, very amicable). Also, I did think about the message it sends when I met someone and they see so many old posts.

Likewise it did annoy me my now ex-gf had quite a few pics of her ex on there as it just seemed weird there was more of him than of me, maybe thats because she eventually admitted she still had feelings for him.

In terms of new partners, I was with someone for 2 months and no becoming FB friends, yet was with my ex gf for about a week (or less) before doing that (although we know a lot of the same people).

I didn't remove any of my past with my ex husband as he WAS my past, I'm not wiping that out for anyone. A lot of my posts from 10 years ago involved him yes, but also our children. I have an amicable relationship with him now. I'm now engaged, he knows I have a past, it's never impacted our present.

There was a 3 year gap between ex husband and my fiance though so it doesn't leap from one to the other!

Don't use socials, but would find it weird for a partner to want me to erase my past. It exists, it's part of me, and it's also the past, so move on.

If someone chooses to erase it themself due to their own feelings, that's obviously their choice.

Don't think there's any standard for adding new people - people use socials in very different ways, so it will just reflect that.

No it's my history, I'm not going to erase it and wouldn't expect anyone else to. It's the same people who burn photos and keepsakes after break ups.
They're my memories, my life. The chapter has closed but it still happened.

This sums it up perfectly

If it was a bad break up then I'd delete every reminder of them. With other exes I've just changed the privacy settings to "Only me" so that I can still see the photos if I wish, but anyone I form a new relationship with doesn't get to see them. For me, that is a good compromise that meets everyone's needs.