Im hoping to get some advice….
I feel like my relationship with my husband has fallen apart since having my miracle baby. I was very lucky to have my baby and as I csnt conceive naturally and only had a 10% chance of ivf working so am so grateful.
during ivf, pregnancy and now parenthood my husbands not been supportive emotionally or physically. When my baby was born he was off work for 4 weeks to ‘help’ but he didn't i was exhausted breast feeling every few hours and baby wouldn't sleep unless being held, but he wouldnt hold our baby so i could get some rest and would put ear plugs in. When he went back to work i was on my own- hed expect me to cook clean take care of shopping bills and baby etc and id be lucky to get 2 mins for a quick shower. I remember sitting crying when he got home one day as it was a hard day and he just said i need to speak to a dr for postnatal depression and walked away- i didn't have it, it was just one of those days. He would carry on doing his hobbies while i had no time to myself.
i thought it would be easier when i went back to work ( i work 2 1/2 days hours crammed into two days so we only have to pay for 2 days nursery) as well as doing a uni course for my job. He still does nothing around the house. He wont shared getting up in the night with the baby on days we both have work ( and i work longer hours than him). I get up early so i can get baby sorted for nursery, i do all cooking, cleaning, washing, bills, shopping, all the baby stuff etc with little help.
we feel like house mates and feel he always tried to pick arguments with me and than im always in the wrong, he calls me names when we have dissagrements, always corrects me on my language or pronounciation, weve tried marridgw counselling and things were a bit better but have now gone back, he moans im always tired and wont do my wife duties ( i also have anemia) and on hrt.
i just dont know what to do? Will it be better to lesve him but im worried where me snd baby would live