I'm a bit worried that I'm going to come across as heartless so some brief context:
My mum and step dad have 9 children between them, and there's only me and one other who are still in contact. Years of horrible stuff, but I just can't go n/c and I've found a balance that has been helped by the fact they live in a different country.
My mum is young (ish) I have friends her age who are very active, but decades of alcohol abuse and chain smoking have basically left her bed bound. I recently went to see them and was really shocked and told them I think they should come back to the UK, they aren't accessing healthcare properly in France, they haven't sorted their Carte Vital so they are paying every time they do, (currently the price of renting a house every month of painkillers/opiates/anti anxiety meds) My mum used to have enough French to get by but this seems to have disappeared and she can't communicate with anyone in French.
I've been over twice this year to try and help sort things out but they are resistant to moving, my mum won't stop drinking or smoking and their health is declining. She is currently severely underweight and mostly living off crackers, cheese and a lot of cheap wine.
On Friday she called me, saying my stepdad was in and out of consciousness and bleeding. She had been trying to call for an hour (I was at a gig and hadn't heard my phone) I told her to call 112 and she did and he was taken into hospital, (this worries me so much that she's so helpless that she didn't know to call 112)
After they took him when she was walking back (with a walker) to her bed she fell and spent the night on a cold stone floor, I tried to get her to call emergency again but she wouldn't.
I have spoken to the hospital and from what I can work out my step dad is ok, he was mostly dehydrated but they said he was filthy and asked me why he had no help at home to wash him. (They are rural they won't speak French to people and no body wants to work for them as my mum smokes inside and the place is gross.)
They have a lovely English woman who comes to clean now and again and she has gone above and beyond despite having lots of her own responsibilities to deal with to help them, she called yesterday and said I have to be as blunt as I can you need to come and get them.
But I don't know what to do, I haven't got the money to keep going back and forth (500 on the boat every time) I have a young son and a job that I can't take any more time off from and no room to house them here even if I did manage to get them here.
I'm just at a loss of what to do.
I started the process of trying to get them back here, renewed my mums passport, offered to guarantor them on a rental, but they said they want to stay there and "enjoy the house" but they are literally stuck in a dirty annexe of their house watching TV all day and not looking after themselves.
I know there's no easy answer here and I've probably left some key things out but I don't know what to do.