Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Why can't he be my cheerleader

6 replies

Mumstheword2011 · 07/07/2024 01:46

Long story short. Had a difficult few years, entering menopause and the joys that brings. Following pandemic I found my close knit BFFs moved on and I have no close friends. Had to leave work due to injury and move home.
My self esteem taken a big hit and I feel anxious and down. When I ask husband for support he becomes defensive, moody and silent and insists he isn't. I feel so drained getting across to him my feelings and trying to garner support. He just doesn't get it. I feel really stuck, lacking motivation and not sure how to get back to where I was without family, friends cheering me on from the side line.
Feeling alone. Anyone been through similar.
Some days I resent my husband as I would move heaven and earth to help him if the other way round. My health not been great and I feel he resents me for it. I really want to get my motivation in life back & finding hard doing it on my own.
Any experience similar & how did you get through.
Thanks

OP posts:
combinationpadlock · 07/07/2024 01:50

would you be happier single?

Apileofballyhoo · 07/07/2024 02:03

Are you on hrt? If he isn't helpful and supportive you have to focus on your own health and getting yourself to a better place. Then you can decide if you want to stay in the relationship.

5475878237NC · 07/07/2024 02:06

Support is crucial to all forms of recovery. If he's unable or unwilling to provide it then can you afford to buy it in? Therapy?

XChrome · 07/07/2024 02:08

I have been through exactly this, except being unsupportive and uncaring was not enough "revenge" for him so he started cheating on me as well. I left the bastard. They don't change. They hate you for having any needs because they are deeply selfish, horrible people. Once you see the truth of who they are, you can't unsee it and you need to take action. It sounds like you are seeing it.

Yoe · 07/07/2024 02:10

If you haven’t already defo look into starting HRT . The menopause is so bloody nasty it’s like life becomes so heavy and tbh negative for me it’s like I got old overnight.

forget about your husband for the time being and concentrate on yourself and getting to a better place . You are number one … and please remember everything will be ok

fieldsofbutterflies · 07/07/2024 07:58

What kind of support are you looking for?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page