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[Uselessprovider]

My partner and I did things backwards and have two kids, one whose 2 and the other whose 4 months but we live 200 miles apart, we are visiting and haven’t seen him since baby born. Iv been around him 4 hours and so far “I talk to loudly and need to work on that” “you haven’t lost much weight have you?” And “well if your not going to have sex with me we need to agree to have sex with other people” have all came out his mouth. On top of saying he won’t be able to help out with kids while I visit my dad who’s terminally ill in hospital. What on earth have I done wrong.

Sorry I hate to be blunt but why are you with him? Has he had much of a presence in your 2 year olds life?

It sounds like he’s setting up for telling you he wants to be with other people. He’s commented on your weight and personality which are both disgusting but seems like he’s failing to step up as a dad too.

You haven’t done anything wrong, he’s just going to find fault with whatsoever you do.

I wanted to try and be a family. He’s been around for birthdays and Xmas but I don’t get any money from him.

I know that’s what you wanted but it doesn’t sound like he wants it.
Have you two discussed moving closer? Moving in or even progressing the relationship?

Honestly I think you two need to have an open and upfront conversation about your future and what you both want. Living apart and only seeing him for the main celebrations doesn’t make for a strong relationship. It really just sounds like he’s a bit of a dead beat dad (sorry)
Why isn’t he contributing towards his children?

The only thing you did wrong was have children with a walking, talking piece of shit. He is scum, my dear. You must face that reality.

Apply for CM immediately.