I'm done

[Josietheboymum]

Need advice if I'm being unreasonable.
So been in this relationship 17 years. Partner has never been able to hold down a job. We have 3 boys. I've always worked , except during COVID due to taking a career break. I pay all the bills, take the kids and do fun stuff. At this point its like living with a extra kid. He has sleep apnea, which affects my sleep. He is so overweight, can barely walk, which has a effect on us all.

Would I be unreasonable to ask for a break for him to sort himself out? I don't feel attracted to him at all. I don't feel he is a good dad as everything is left to me. He is a great babysitter, it you are ok with the kids barley being watched, encouraged to play or make it outside. I've no family near which is hard for me.

She said he's been out of work the past 2 years, which means he was working for the first 15 years they were together, even if he wasn't working all the time hopefully he still paid towards the DC and bills.

God, honestly don’t waste another minute with him…you and your boys deserve so much better than this…good luck OP xx

Just tell him you're done
He is a parasite and his presence adds nothing to your lives, except resentment.
You will feel so much lighter without this millstone around your neck
DC will also think this is normal if you continue with the relationship
You don't say if you're married or if your home is jointly owned but my answer would be the same
You May be entitled to UC too

If he's struggling to even walk due to his weight then you need to get him out before you end up being his carer. Don't sleepwalk into that.
It's time to break the the cycle for your children and reduce the chance of them turning out like him and his mum.

Get rid. He's useless

No over the course of our relationship it's been about 60 jobs which he can't hold down. I have been a dormat il admit. But I worked for NHS in the city with no family support and felt stuck and ashamed to what people would think. 2 planned kids and 1 not.

I was thinking the same…OP will soon be his carer if he can’t get to the shop.