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Am I being too sensitive?

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Saturdaysleepday · 05/07/2024 18:52

Long story short stayed friend with an ex (we have known each other years before we got together). We still occasionally go out for meals and to the cinema. I have put a lot of weight on with meds the last couple of years and he is aware of this. On our way to the restaurant, I stood on a paving stone and it wobbled and splashed water all over my foot. He commented “if anyone else stood on that it would’ve moved”. I’m not upset just disappointed that he thinks it’s ok to say this. I’m late 40s he’s early 50s.

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Newbeginning12 · 05/07/2024 18:57

@Saturdaysleepday tell him to get lost

Saturdaysleepday · 05/07/2024 19:01

Edit *would not have

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ThursdaysMonkey · 05/07/2024 19:03

Was he definitely referring to your weight? Or could it have been a "what are you like?!?" comment. I'm extremely clumsy so I'd assume that was what it was if someone said it to me?

Saturdaysleepday · 05/07/2024 19:10

It was definitely about my weight. He compared me to a pregnant seal when we were together. Regarding the pavement comment I replied “says you” and he said he carry’s it better

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SkippysEar · 05/07/2024 19:12

Just friendly bantz

NowyouhaveDunnett · 05/07/2024 19:12

Why are you friends with him?

Anneofa1000days · 05/07/2024 19:13

Tell him to eff off.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 05/07/2024 19:16

I don't know what you want us to say really?

He clearly saw it as a joke, you clearly didn't, so you'll need to speak to him about it.

Sunshinethrumywindow · 05/07/2024 19:17

Not at all, what a idiot making comments like that. I'm glad you said something back but I would definitely tell him his comments hurt.

mybeesarealive · 05/07/2024 19:52

He probably thinks you're close enough for personal jokes. Just tell him you don't like it and it hurt your feelings. If he apologises and means it you love on. If he snort's dismissively and invalidates your feelings, end the friendship because he has a nasty streak. Even if it's hidden deep.

mybeesarealive · 05/07/2024 19:53

Move on, not love on 😂

Saturdaysleepday · 05/07/2024 20:28

@mybeesarealive well it went down like a lead balloon. I said I’m not mad but just not happy about his comments and to be a bit more mindful of my feelings. He replied with a lot of swearing saying it’s just a joke etc.

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