Is it normal to feel exhausted during divorce?

[helpmetaylor]

Both mentally and physically.

In about 6 weeks I'll be divorced. I filed for divorce. My ex husband is abusive.

Since our separation, he's done everything he can to make my life hell. His new girlfriend over lapped with our separation. Now she's pregnant with his child. She's about 5 months pregnant. We only separated on October last year. My ex introduced our child to her straight away causing a lot of confusion.

In general my life is ok. My life is better. But I don't find joy in anything. I am constantly exhausted.

I don't speak much to my ex. I only allow my child to see him every other weekend for 1 day. He is not heavily involved in our lives and I have him blocked on my phone. We communicate if we need to through email or my solicitor - I have legal aid thankfully.

I just feel so numb all of the time. I feel sad. I don't want him but I still feel sad our marriage is over. I'm sad for my child.

I have very little support apart from my mum who is amazing.

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Absolutely 100%. Mentally the most draining thing I have ever experienced….All worth it in the end though.

Absolutely. I think in any situation people can miss or underestimate how exhausting emotionally and mentally difficult times can be. It's all about eating and drinking sensibly and getting rest when you can. Let unimportant things go and pick your battles.

Thank you both. I keep wondering if I am depressed. But I don't want to go to the gp. I don't want to rely on tablets. Plus they make me put weight on and oje of the many things that's come from my divorce is I'm 1.5 stone lighter.

I just feel numb. Nothing excites me. I used to dream of leaving him. Just me living a peaceful life was all I wanted. Now I have it and it's nothing like I imagined.

But I suppose it's still early days. This time last year we were still together - very unhappily I admit. But never did I imagine this time last year that he would be soon expecting another child and I would be utterly miserable.

I've jusr completely lost my 'mojo'. I work part time and when I'm not working I'm just sat.

But I feel I need to listen to my body. Maybe I need to just mope about. I really don't know.

Just stop for a minute. I had no choice but to divorce my h but it is still shit. It still hurts. I'm happier without him but still heartbroken at what he has done. It would be odd if you weren't depressed. Keep an eye on your mental health. I know that meds aren't always right for us medically or emotionally but your health is more important than your weight. Right now it is about getting through this time.

Do whatever gets you through the day. Easy dinners, nice tv, buy a new book,some lovely PJs, a cosy jumper, play loud music, whatever lifts you.

I am absolutely knackered. Solidarity @helpmetaylor

Absolutely normal. Not sure why you think you'll put on weight with some meds though.

You'll get through this though. Be kind to yourself. Keep busy mentally, start walking just nice strolls.

I've been on them before and put on 2 stone - though that certain medication has a huge side effect for weight gain. Can't remember what it's called now - begins with an M though I think.

I just keep telling myself there is a light at the end do the tunnel but I really can't see it yet

Hang in there, op!

I ended an almost 20 year long relationship this year. It was definitely the right thing to do. I feel relieved on many levels. My life seems easier, mostly.
I am getting therapy and healing from the years of a dysfunctional relationship.
I feel exhausted a lot of the time. Sometimes I feel happy, a lot of the time I feel low or numb.

I think it’s natural after such a massive life changing event. Please be kind and gentle to yourself. Do whatever fills your cup.
check out the book “Get divorced, be happy”.

Lots of courage, OP
Most women feel exhausted during and shortly after divorce. You're grieving. Be kind and understanding to yourself.
Things will get better, it just needs time.