Am I too sensitive?

[KayP107350]

I’m currently 38+4 weeks pregnant (literally about to drop). We had some relatives over and decided to go out for lunch, deciding to go in 1 car (there were 5 of us), so there would be three of us in the back.

A blind relative turned to me and said ‘I don’t want to sit next to you, I don’t know how big you are!’ Which took me by surprise, I’m already feeling uncomfortable, quite self conscious as I’m about to drop. It just felt really inappropriate. I’d like to just add, I’m a UK size 12.

I confronted them later about it, they got extremely defensive and said that I’m too sensitive and they claimed that they were trying to make me feel better about sitting at the front of the car (passengers seat) but they didn’t say this at the time, they just made the comment about not knowing how big I am.

Does anybody else think this is a bit of a rubbish excuse for why they said it? No one mentioned about me sitting up at the passenger’s seat at that time, I didn’t even think about it at the time. They pretty much just randomly said the comment.

Or am I being too sensitive?

Too sensitive but well done for challenging their comments.

Too sensitive. Pregnancy makes you fatter.

It was a bit of an odd and clumsy thing to say but I am not sure they meant anything rude by it.

Is your bump big rather than you?
I would have let them feel my stomach if they are completely blind.
It's a temporary thing.
Sensitive is ok, I hated the walking in the last stage I felt like a whale.

How very odd. The person is blind, concerned about space, it’s a fair enough comment, they weren’t saying you were fat, they were addressing the fact you’re heavily pregnant.

I'm really failing to see why you are upset about this.
The person is blind. Knowing you are heavily pregnant they were possibly worried they might inadvertently hurt you in some way because of not being able to judge giving you space etc.
You seem to be quite insensitive actually about the difficulties of negotiating situations physically when a person is blind.

A blind person by definition cannot be making a personal remark on your appearance.

It's a fact that pregnancy makes you larger. Perhaps it was clumsily worded but I don't think they were making a dig at you.

I think you are being too sensitive. As the person was blind, they weren’t making a comment on your appearance. I suspect they were just conscious of not making you feel squashed. Be pregnant and proud I say! Good luck with your baby.

Strange way of them wording it but as heavily pregnant as you are, why were you not in the passenger seat, it can't have been comfortable squashed in the back with 2 others?

At nearly 39 weeks pregnant you should have been givn the front seat anyway, why wasn't that a given? The blind person worded it clumsily but it sounds like they were just concerned that you had enough room. l'm sure the word big referred to your bump, not you!

Yes, too sensitive. And quite insensitive to the needs and vulnerability of the blind person imo.

How was she?

Because she failed to realise the blind person couldn’t see the size of her so had no idea how cramped they would be, and also failed to recognise that the blind person was simply stating that.

If they said that and did insist you sit in the front, Id' take it as a clumsy joke.

If they said it so they sat in the front or you each sat by a window with someone separating you, I'd be offended. I don' tknow the situation with this blind person but obviously facial and body language cues are different and more difficult for them. If my friend said that to me, it would be with a grin and a smirk, and they'd be moving to get me into the front seat. You can see how a blind person might not use the same body language.

Didn't they mean as in they would be worried about bumping or squashing your bump because you're bigger than usual? Sounds like they were trying to be considerate but just worded it a bit strangely?
I think you're very much overthinking tbh