How can we start a clean slate

[ThatWorthySheep]

my boyfriend and I have been on break and haven’t seen each other in 10 months because we kept fighting about past issues, he neglected our relationship because of it. we haven’t had sex or had any intimacy. We communicate through text. Things are hostile and he wants me to stop fighting with him about things that happened in the past and start on a clean slate. We both miss each other. I don’t know how to let things go or even how to act like nothing happened. Or how to start things on a clean slate.

Why do you miss him? You don’t sound compatible or well suited. What’s stopping you walking away?

You haven't seen each other in 10 months and your text messages are hostile? Just walk away, life's too short for this nonsense.

Some things can't be forgiven or forgotten.
What are the things from the past he wants you to forget?

It sounds like you are flogging a dead horse. Move on. "I release all which no longer serves me".

You can't. You and he are both products of your life experiences, including with each other. It sounds like you are not compatible. A 10-month break is tantamount to a break-up, and you can't even text without conflict. Block and move on.

You’re not on a break. You’ve split up. You fight and he’s neglectful. I don’t know why you would miss that unless you enjoy being in some sort of abusive relationship.

A clean slate is impossible where there has been previous hurt, bad behaviour or abuse. Trying to create one is doing yourself harm.

10 months no contact, why are you still txting him?

The relationship is over.

We both miss each other.

Why? I think you might be someone who mistakes toxicity for passion, and passion for love.

Real love is when you are a partnership, and the things you weather are outside you. Fighting with each other is just inviting conflict in.

He's not your boyfriend. He's an ex you keep fighting with. You haven't seen him in 10moths, and fight over text. That's not a relationship

You can't. Your history will always be between you. You can miss someone but that doesn't mean you need to reunite.

Move on, find someone new.

Make the break permanent and move on

You can't basically.
Like others have said, time to move on.

It doesn’t sound like you are compatible if there is still hostility. Do you miss him or just miss being with someone?

This is one of those weird drama addiction things. We can all fall foul of them. Your head is full of him and the relationship and the issues and you feel het up and messy. It's easy to confuse it for passion but it's not. Take a clean break, block him and give yourself time to heal before jumping into a new relationship. It might take a few months for the crazy to die down and for you to feel better but you will do. Don't get back with him, it's doomed to be toxic.