I have been no contact with my mum for two years. She was abusive growing up and treated me awfully for the last year we were speaking. She would stand me up on visits or she would accuse me of going behind her back and talking to people about her.
Recently I deactivated my Facebook account (the only place I have her on and the only place she’d message me on) for my own mental health. We’ve never done phone calls and haven’t even texted properly for three years.
After not hearing anything from her or her reaching out for 4 months or any kind of contact, my mum phoned my work place asking to speak to me. I work in van rental so our main number is everywhere however she chose to phone the mobile of our resales manager through an external vehicle sales site. He doesn’t know the history I have with her so naturally he came over to hand me the phone. I told him I don’t want to speak with her. He informed her I wasn’t available and can he pass on a message. She just said ‘can you tell her that her mother phoned’ she’s not text or tried to call my mobile since.
I don’t know what to do because it could be an emergency or something could have happened but surely she would have said or asked to call her back.
People have suggested I reach out to her and ask why. But part of me thinks she was just checking if I was still there. I feel if I respond then it’s giving her a reaction she wants.
Any advice would be appreciated ☺️