What do I do?

[Matilda46]

So I’ve known this guy for about 5 years and we’ve always been good friends but recently it’s become more.

The only issue is I’m not sure what’s going on….he wants to take things slow which Is also fine with me but I feel like it’s going to slow.
We only see eachother once a week and he’s not very good at messaging but whenever I ask what’s going on he says he’s got a lot going on at the moment.

when we’re physically together we’re really good , get on so well and it feels like we’re going somewhere but as soon as we’re apart there’s just no communication. He assures me he likes me and wants to spend more time together but just feels like we’re not getting anywhere.

Im not really sure what to do now - do I just leave him to it and make no effort until he suggests seeing me?

If this is not working for you .... you should tell him.

You deserve to be treated with respect and it doesn’t sound like your needs are being met in this relationship. However it appears his needs are being met. Talk to him about how you feel about it. If his response is still not noticing your needs or showing in his actions that he is doing so, then given your experience of him so far it’s probably not going to change and it’s time to make the decision to move on. I know it’s difficult to end something that isn’t completely bad but the way it’s making you feel isn’t good enough.
hopefully some communication and time to see if things change will be a start but time limit this and make a promise to yourself to make the right decision for you. Good luck

I recently had this.... I did speak with him..... but nothing changed. I ended things with him in the end. Surprisingly he was really gutted. Said it was the kick in the ass that he needed. It was over for me by that point then. I want someone to match my efforts.

He's not that into you I'm afraid, OP. I wouldn't even bother talking to him about it. Bin him.

It sounds like you want more than he wants to give

If someone wants to be with you, it's very clear. They want to spend time with you, they communicate, they don't want to lose you. I'd move on OP

If someone is interested they will let you know.
This ins't working for your communication style. Which is a nicer way of putting he, isn't texting enough for your liking, because not interested.
Leave and find someone who shows you that he is interested in you.

Sounds as though he may not be as single as he has led you to believe.

Or he is just using you for occasional sex when he has some spare time, sorry.

If a (single) man likes you and wants something with you, they don't simply vanish off the radar completely as soon as you are not together. He would be in contact fairly regularly.