Recent Break Up

[LearnAndGrow]

Hi everyone, I am 23 year old Female who recently was broken up with by my 34 year old Male partner of 18 months. We were together for 8 months before I was slowly being introduced to his then 4 now 5 year old son. I love that little boy with all my heart. Whilst I can understand in my heart the reason for the breakup, I don't know how I'll ever get over not having that little boy in my life anymore. I loved being a parent whilst I got to be one and my life feels empty without them. Anyone any advice?

I’m sorry you are hurting so much. I’m afraid you will get some people on here who will just say ‘well you weren’t a parent’. Don’t let them minimise your feelings though. Maybe try and spend some time with friends, hobbies etc?

Thanks for your response. I know it probably doesn't come close as a comparison but it's the closest I've experienced and I was apart of everything in his life for that timeframe. We had started decorating his bedroom at my house and everything. I am doing my best to fill in the gaps in my diary, but Wednesday - Sunday every week I am just feeling empty from not having him around anymore, even just hearing about his day (mostly just "I don't remember" haha). I even miss the days when he was just a terror all the time denying that he was tired 😂. I'm grateful I was a part of his life whilst I got to be, I just miss him so much.

Oh this sounds rough OP, sorry. I can imagine it’s very difficult but it will pass with time, the good thing is that you know you enjoy being a parent if you want children or to be a step parent in the future.

Children are such little characters and fill a house with energy, so I understand it must be very odd without him there.

Maybe in hindsight though it was a bit too early to introduce his child to the relationship, I think at a year or so you haven’t really got to know eachother that well and there’s still potential it won’t work out long term.

Hope you start to feel a bit better soon.