Hello,
I am struggling with my feelings and wondering if I could get some perspective. My brother got together with his girlfriend in July last year (his first serious relationship in a long while, he is 46 I'm the older sister). I have only met her a few times. In January he announced she is pregnant and she moved in with him in May. I finally got to chat to her about a month a go on her own and she is lovely, although it did surprise me that she was commenting on how close my brother and I are (I don't think we are)
Fast forward to last weekend he came round and was very stressed and telling me she has severe MH problems, is struggling to cope with the pregnancy and worries about money (he contract was not renewed after she told the she was pregnant). He even said that if she wasn't pregnant he would have split up with her by now...I was very supportive but didn't give advice, just said I was here if he needed to talk. I was very touched that he had opened up to me, he usually just sits and brags about how great his life is, never asks me how I am, is not supportive of me. Whilst telling everyone what a close bond we have....
Last night he sent me a message with a photo of them both and the caption, 'she said yes' - they are engaged. I am shocked and confused and struggling because I worried so much about him and now it seems that everything is rosy....and all I get is a text.
Do I pretend I'm really happy? Detach and set boundaries? He is the only family I have.