I need somewhere to vent and get some feedback.
We are military family and we just moved to a new base. Honestly,so far I hate it. It's hot, humid, the people are rude, the food is expensive, bugs are everywhere and there is not much to do without costing an arm and a leg. I also struggle with adjusting to new areas and such, it just takes me time to adjust. This is also our first move with our son. I have made another post that my son has delays, is 3 and in early intervention for these delays..has shown great improvement. Now I'm waiting to hear back from the Pediatrician to get a referral so we can get the ball rolling down here with his early interventions. I've already found a place ect.
Now for the past couple years my husband has been having issues. My son got burnt from hot tea on his watch and ever since my husband's anxiety has been terrible and has melted into other parts of his life. For example this morning he was in tears because he couldn't handle Me having trouble adjusting to this new place and he just wants me to be happy all the time, even though this is our 4th move together and he should know this by now. He was under the impression moving here would make things better even though I told him that's not how things work. He will cry whenever he sees my sons scars. He is overly obsessive about fixing things even if things dont need to be fixed. Then a few months ago we were talking and I told him sex isn't really a priority right now for Me because we are so busy and he took it as he wasn't a priority and that he just wanted to feel loved. I was upset and hurt because..EVERYTHING I do..is for him and our son. Everything. It really made Me feel like I wasn't enough..and I still feel that way (which is an issue I've been trying to work on).
I"ve been a mental health therapist for many years and I do believe he has PTSD symptoms that need to be addressed.
He also was seeing a therapist this morning after MONTHS of requesting he go see one. Well when he got home it's like shit hit the fan.
At this base we have a program to help people with children that have delays and disabilities. I have conversed with these people months ago, and they wanted my son to start their school program which are full days (7 hours a day) with therapy provided by them plus curriculum..plus his therapy outside of school..he's 3! So I was no..I don't think that would work. BUT they did provide some resources, I did look into them and I am doing those things as mentioned above to get things going.
Anyway, but my husband started laying into me saying these people had resources and can help us, and we don't have to "do this alone" and Im basically not giving these people a chance and his therapist told him that we need to use these resources to help HIM feel better. I'm thinking we aren't doing this alone, we have stuff to do to get our son into the early interventions he needs. Wtf? This is also driven by a conversation we had last night about me telling him Im waiting for the ball to drop because once he goes back to work, it's going to fall on me to take care of everything..which is fine. That's just how life is because I am supporting his career so we can live this life. Plus..This is my kid, I'm an involved parent and I don't like relying on a stranger to help my son if I can get it done. Because I am his PARENT. Anyway he's trying to fix it so I don't have to "do it all" when he doesn't get I don't mind doing it all because I'm my sons mother. Isn't that what I'm supposed to do? Ugghh I'm so frustrated.