Me and my partner have been together for 5 years. We both have children from previous relationships. I have 1 and they have 2. We have a mortgage together and have lived together for 4 years. I was always earning more money so have always paid all the bills and they covered shopping. They have just got a new job which makes our situation about 60 to 40 split on earnings me being the 60. I have said about putting out finances together and having a joint account we both put in the percentage of the wages and pay all the bills food etc from that one account and then we still have our separate money. When trying to set this up I was told that I am trying to be controlling. I see it as I am trying to be fare. On top of this my partner has turn around to me and said that they have booked a week off from there new job and we are going on holiday. I checked my child's dates and he is away with the ex partner for the first 3 days. I have said that they should of checked to make sure that all in the family are available before making that decision and booking the time off. My partner is saying that they are still going away as it is there birthday week. Bear in mind that we have already been away this year without my child. My partner is adamant that they are still booking a holiday and going. The reason I have put both the financial and holiday in the same thread is because I cannot just decide I'm booking a holiday as over 90% of my wages go on bills and I am not in a position just to do that. I have tried talking to my partner about both situations but we hit a stone wall every time and I get labelled controlling. I was just wondering what other peoples opinions are on this and has any one else been in a similar situation and what was the outcome