Lip filler

[Tiredofthis888]

I had a little bit of lip filler a few months ago- I genuinely don’t even think it’s noticeable. I used my own money and told DH in advance. He keeps making sly comments and pretty much laughed in my face when I had them done. I thought it was just the swelling but then he made comments last week about them too. Opinions? I’ve attached a photo. I genuinely think there’s the tiniest difference and it’s really shit of him to keep making sly comments. I kept it from the kids but then one of them asked after the comments he made last week.

The filler is quite noticeable. How old are your children that you kept it from them?

I think it’s very obvious. Probably more so from the side?

if dh had lip filler I would not be happy at all.

I think it's really obvious with your mouth closed that you have had filler, your lips have got a bit of that sticking out duck lips look about them and also you can't close them properly. The top lip is naturally supposed to be thinner than the bottom so when women have them made the same size it looks unnatural.
Although I'm a woman I can perhaps understand your husband's attitude. I think he was perfectly happy with how your mouth looked, after all, he had loved and kissed it for years. Suddenly you get filler and to him your mouth isn't the one he loves and is familiar with. He presumably also thought you weren't the type of woman to have cosmetic work done, so now he probably looks down on you a bit as you've joined the trout pout Botox brigade. It's not the fact that you haven't had much, it's the fact you've had any at all that's angered and upset him, because in his eyes the lip filler means you're no longer the woman you once were, he feels betrayed because he thought you weren't that type of woman, he thought you had higher self-esteem and you've somehow cheapened yourself. To me those feelings would explain his behaviour towards you. Ask him to try to explain why it's upset him so much.

Thanks for the people being nice and saying it looks good. I didn’t actually ask anyone’s opinions on how it actually looked so comments such as trout pout is rude!
I wanted opinions on how my husband has reacted and continues to react months later when I don’t think it looks ridiculous. The kids haven’t noticed at all and I didn’t want them to know which is why I’m getting annoyed with the comments because I made this clear. They both have naturally lovely lips, mine was an insecurity because my top lip disappeared when I smile. I have no desire to make them any bigger, they don’t stick out from the side etc. I had 0.5mls which was pretty much all in my top lip.
thanks for different opinions I suppose, ha

I have my mouth open in that photo. I’ve screenshotted it. My mouth shuts perfectly fine. I suppose if it upsets him that much he knows where the door is.

It isn't that it looks bad. It's the principle of the thing.

I suppose he will have to get over it. It would give me the ick if my balding wrinkly Dh suddenly got a hair transplant or Botox.I am just saying how I feel, as you did ask!

I don't like lip fillers, and I think the majority of lip fillers look awful. But yours look really amazing @Tiredofthis888 Your lips look great! 😍

Your husband is a fucking dickhead though! Is he threatened by you looking so good with your nice new lips?!

I don't know how I would deal with this, other than saying 'I LOVE THEM. If you don't I really could not care fucking less!'

(Is that you on the 4th pic by the way??? Coz those lips look great. 3rd pic looks good too though - with just a little filler...)

(Your original lips look fine too!_

Your natural lips certainly look more sophisticated and have the look I prefer, but exactly that, you prefer one thing, I prefer another.
I believe that it is understandable for spouse's to have a deference in their opinions and expect to be considerate with each other regarding body adjustments, but it is your right to choose to dismiss his input. Maybe he feels humour is a gentle way to express his concern/dislike.

OP you’ve changed how your face looks and DH liked you as you were.

He’s probably desperately hoping you don’t get more as it seems like people seem to lose track of what looks good once they start.

I think it’s obvious they are done. And although you don’t want comments on how they look, it is precisely because of how they look that DH is making these comments. I think they looked lovely before. And yes a little bit ducky now. Men aren’t really known for tact, so he’s being clumsy about saying he preferred them before and please don’t inflate them further. But at the end of the day you get to do what makes you happy I guess.
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I can’t stand lip filler as I always think the ladies look worse after getting them however yours is really quite natural!

Your DH shouldn’t be making comments especially in front of the children. It sounds as if he’s practically teasing you? That’s just very nasty of him

Have courage and don't let your DH get to you, just grey rock anything he has to say on the matter.
I'll say that although there is a clear difference, it's subtle enough that you look naturally plump.
Yes he can point out others who have trout poits and clearly overdo it, but you are not an example of it. So don't react, ignore him until he gets board of talking to himself about it.
2 things are maybe at play underneath this. One, your DH is insecure and prefers that you don't do anything that could make you appear more attractive to other men, and from your side, you wanted to do something to make you feel better and give you confidence. Why you would need a confidence boost is obvious, your DH likes to run you down and keep you in your place. Again it's because he's insecure, and he soothes his feelings by bringing you down. His problem, don't make it yours, don't let him get to you.
If you really want to see him squirm, get your hair done, new wardrobe and join a gym. He'd quake in his boots because of the way he is, whereas the correct response would be to be pleased for you and proud.

Yes they’re noticeable but regardless, your DH is being an arse.

Lip fillers are awful and never look natural, including yours. However, it's your face and you can do what you like with it. But your DP also has a right to not like it or find it attractive, though he doesn't have to be a prick about it.

So, in summary OP we all have different opinions about fillers but we are ALL agreed your hubby is acting like a dick!

I absolutely detest the duck look, but I think yours look good. You haven’t got the duck look or trout pout! They look natural to me.

Your DH is being a prick.

They are pretty obvious so it would be weird for him to not comment. What sly comments is he making? Do you usually banter? If my DH came home with filled lips I would take the piss tbh.

You started off with the same problem I have, thin top lip, fuller bottom one. Now look more equal

You know this isn’t actually a problem & I say this as someone who has a top lip a similar size to the bottom, it’s not the norm!

Your lips look fine.

Is this a tip of the iceberg situation, how are things generally with your husband?