How open are you with your partner?

[flipfloppertopper]

I feel like I am too open with my partner sometimes, I tell him everything. Everything I am feeling and thinking. I question sometimes whether I say too much about how aggregated I get with his family - he does too. Should I reign it in and be less open and honest about thoughts and feelings?

I don’t think you should reign it in no, unless you’re slagging them off, I think it’s fine. My husband and I are both really open with each other about everything including things like this but I do think there is a line. For example if we’ve just been to his parents and they did or said something that irritated/annoyed me I would mention it to my partner afterwards and he would do the same which I think is fine, but if we’re just sitting at home on a night I wouldn’t just start slagging them off as a topic of conversation if that makes sense?

Constantly slagging them off no…. Also we’ve been married years so it would get dull. But we have some in jokes and shorthand about stuff so try and have a laugh about it. He knows when I’ve got a serious proper gripe. Generally I’m fortunate I like his family, and we don’t see mine much!

Should I reign it in and be less open and honest about thoughts and feelings?
This is such a hard question because it depends on both of your personalities, your boundaries, your relationships with your families. So many things.

I question sometimes whether I say too much about how aggregated I get with his family - he does too
If you're starting to doubt yourself and question whether you've gone too far then, yes, reign it in. But no-one else can answer this for you.

From my perspective, me and DP are incredibly open about each others families. When we/they visit, we always have a nightly debrief of how batshit and irritating they are. Unlike @Mrsttcno1 we will just randomly start slagging each others families off if something has prompted it. DP fully knows my feelings that his family are heartless, selfish bastards, and he knows it was me who called social services on his sister.