Does anyone else getting fed up with DH, DC ?

[CheshireDing]

I am wondering if this is normal or if it's actually me!?

DC are all young (11,9,7) DH and I both work full time.

I just feel like they all annoy me often. I am
constantly walking around stuff not moved, put away etc. eg someones shoes will get chewed but that's because they put the UNDER the shoe cabinet instead of in it so the puppy takes the shoes 🤷‍♀️ My shoes don't get chewed because I put them away. Food left on the side, socks dumped where they took they off, not opening the window after a shower, walking past the cats bowl but not feeding the cat

Those are just examples but I feel everything is like this. It's just me constantly running around moving and picking up crap and feeding everyone. I don't even care to eat that much myself but the DC want full meals

When I used to live alone I might just have a brew and crackers. I was a lot slimmer than too. I hate cooking but always having to make food. DH usually doesn't get home too 8/9pm so he can't cook for them

I think fondly back to when I was single and lived alone. Except that I know then I used to wish I had a boyfriend, now I have a DH and on paper a nice life it's doing my head in and they all annoy me.

I dont know why I feel this way though

You sound burnt out.

If you both work full time then there is no reason everything should be on you.

There is nothing stopping your DH from loading up the slow cooker in the morning, or bulk cooking and freezing meals on the weekend.

I'd look at the balance of labour in your household. And an 11 year old can start to be taught some recipes as well.

I think it's tough working full time with three primary age kids and a puppy and DH not around much. So I would say it's normal for you to feel this way, in these circumstances.

Your kids sound normal too, but at these ages they can start learning to be tidier. If you keep saying to them about putting things away they will eventually get better at it. Can you have a reward system where their pocket money is contingent on doing xyz?

I agree with pp about sharing the domestic load fairly with DH too. He should be cooking every weekend as you do it in the week - does he?

Yes I do and it’s normally due to be over tired and burnt out. As mentioned above make sure DH is doing his fair share of the load as resentment is tiring as well.

One reason I don't want a pet. It just adds to the stress of life.

And yes, families are a pain.

I tried the pocket money for chores previously but it just felt like an extra job to try and encourage them as they weren't money motivated. Then I would end up doing the chore because it had been hours and it still needed doing. I gave up on that after a few months.

DH works 12 hour shifts so will
be out of the house for 14 hours easily due tot commutes. As its shifts it includes weekends too.

I have told him I am not doing the ironing anymore and being responsible for the clothes washing. He can put the machine on when he gets home late at night. DC were complaining yesterday that there was no food in the house (there was), I just told them to
speak to DH about it 🤣 in a effort to back off the cooking too.

So fed up of it all.