Abuse 25+ yrs on

[Frightened24]

Just starting to deal mentally with this. My eldest (his daughter) is in contact and it's awful for me

When she was small, he had "supervis3d" access and fucked it up. Basically a half way house, left her in care of a known pedophile, SS told me I was over reacting. I refused any unsupervised access and court backed me.

Lots more, kept him at arms length.

eldest is now 24. And wants a Dad relationship.
.Fine. up to her. I've not mentioned fractured skull, 4 ribs, r8pes, much more.

I si ply can't grin n bear it. Help

Your daughter is an adult now. It's time she knows the truth.

She is aware of some. I've never directly told her of any. I protect3d her from most. So now she thinks I'm just bitter. This guy fractured me skull and dragged me nak3d down main road.

I asked doe it according to cops at time. Cos I told him he was a violent cunt. As he was fracturing ribs and skull. My fault lol

I agree with the PP

I fled DV when my children were 2 and 8 months old and the older they have gotten they have started to ask about their dad ( court ordered no contact or communication)

I didnt know what to say to them so asked school for advice and the safe guarding teacher told me to tell them in a child friendly manner. So they know ( their 9 and 7 now ) that their dad really hurt me and the police told him he couldnt see or speak to us

The older they get if they ask I will probably share more details. I have a scar across my eyebrow where he head butted me and they know that it's from him

I would be heartbroken if they wanted a relation ship with him when they were older so I can imagine how difficult this must be for you.

She is an adult and I would tell her. Abusive men dont change and theres a chance he might try to alienate you from each other by pretending you were the abuser or you stopped them seeing each other ect

She is aware he is violent (and drigs)

She was rais3d by my 2nd husband, 20+yrs. Calls him Dad, just wants contact with nob

Told her that sh3 is an adult. Told her why sh3 had no contact from 3-9 yrs. (Pedo issues detailed above).

SS agreed. Contact was stopped.

Did everything by the book.

Up to her now, she wants good contact. He is trying to rewrite history. Such a great bloke!

Ugh

FTR...

Am finally strong enough to know it was r5pe, assault and more. Nowt will happen, dosnt at the time when reported.

Not a chance for historical charges. But I'm gonna go for it. Many witnesses.

Still can't sort eldest...fretting

My friend reported historical abuse, it had been 20 + years. Hes recently been sent to prison for what he did to her. She had witnesses such as childhood friends who she had spoke to about the abuse, they went to court for her and spoke. It all helped and now hes locked up and she feels so much lighter

I'm sorry she wants contact with him. Hopefully she will meet him and realise hes an abuser, abusive people normally tell on themselves x

That's amazing after so long!

I've kinda left it, for the sake.of cba opening old wounds.

Eldest is now gushing about contact with "Dad".

She's aware we had issues and that he chose drugs over her. ..

...but cos he is changed now.....

Argh!!!